Dale Carnegie - Don't Argue

as posted on VF.
Posted On: Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:07:00 AM

guess we need to learn a little from Dale Carnegie.

sedikit suntingan dari buku terkenal dale carnegie. muka surat 115.

YOU CAN'T WIN AN ARGUMENT.

there is only one way to get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it.
9/10 dari setiap argument (apa dah dlm BM?), berakhir dengan setiap pihak bertambah yakin bahawa merekalah yang benar-benar benar.

you can't win an argument. you can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. KENAPA? well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. then what? you will feel fine. but what about him? you have made him feel inferior. you have hurt his pride. he will resent your triumph. and -

A MAN CONVINCED AGAINST HIS WILL IS OF THE SAME OPINION STILL.
(Orang yang diyakinkan dengan sesuatu yang bertentangan dengan kemahuannya sendiri tetaplah tidak berubah keyakinannya)

it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will.

pantun inggeris:
Here lies the body of William Jay
Who died maintaining his right of way -
He was right, dead right, as he sped along,
But he's just as dead as if he were wrong.

anda mungkin betul, sangat betul, as you speed along in your argument; BUT AS FAR AS CHANGING ANOTHER'S MIND IS CONCERNED, YOU WILL PROBABLY BE JUST AS FUTILE AS IF YOU WERE WRONG.

'better give your path to a dog than be bitten by him in contesting for the right. even killing the dog would not cure the bite'
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rajinnya saya menulis dari buku ini.

harapnya anda semua jangan berhenti dari berbalas-balas pendapat dalam tajuk-tajuk lain. semuanya sangat membuka fikiran dan menambah pengetahuan.

cuma jangan berlebih-lebihan sehingga 'calling names' dsb, tu dah lari dari argument.

good day to all.