Somethin That You Have To Think About

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways,but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgement, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space.. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

I've Learned ....

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down may be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.

I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get further in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and
standing up for what you believe.

I've learned that no matter how fast or how far you go, you can't outrun God.

I've learned that no matter how far away I've been, He'll always welcome me back.

I've learned that love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.

I've learned that even if you do the right thing for the wrong reason, it's still the wrong thing to do."

- Author unknown -

How To Improve Your Memory & Exercise Your Brain

Everyone can take steps to improve their memory, and with time and practice most people can gain the ability to memorize seemingly impossible amounts of information. Whether you want to win the World Memory Championships, ace your history test, or simply remember where you put your keys, this article can get you started. Scientists believe that exercising your brain can create a ‘cognitive reserve’ that will help you stay sharp as you age.

1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve.

Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements — it’s hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.

2. Keep your brain active.

The brain is not a muscle, but regularly “exercising” the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills—especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument—and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.

3. Exercise daily.

Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental “pictures.”

4. Reduce stress.

Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.

5. Eat well and eat right.

There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine). A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants—broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example—and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.

6. Take better pictures.

Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don’t really learn people’s names at first because we aren’t really concentrating on remembering them. You’ll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you’ll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you’re able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.

7. Give yourself time to form a memory.

Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you’re trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.

8. Create vivid, memorable images.

You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book – that’s too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It’s your mind – make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.

9. Repeat things you need to learn.

The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you’ll remember it, right? It’s a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker’s name or your best friend’s birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.

10. Group things you need to remember.

Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you’ll find it easier to remember all four.

11. Organize your life.

Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn’t improve your memory, you’ll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won’t have to search for your keys anymore).

12. Try meditation.

Research now suggests that people who regularly practice “mindfulness” meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.

13. Sleep well.

The amount of sleep we get affects the brain’s ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night’s sleep – a minimum of seven hours a night – may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.

14. Build your memorization arsenal.

Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.

15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes.

Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you’ve done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.

Himpunan Petua Melayu

Hilangkan karat pada gigi
Cara untuk menghilangkan karat dari gigi adalah dengan dengan mengambil biji asam jawa, kemudian gorengkan tanpa minyak lalu ditumbuk hingga halus. ambil debunya dan gosokkan pada gigi dengan kain atau berus gigi.Lakukan setiaphari dan InsyaAllah anda akan dapat melihat kesannya.

Legakan Sakit kepala
Sakit kepala boleh dihilangkan dengan cara mengambil daun lemuni hijau lebih kurang sekilogram dan dimasukkan kedalam sarung bantal. Kemudian tidurlah diatasnya selama dua tiga hari. InsyaAllah sakit kepala anda akan berkurangan dan anda akan berasa segar.

Kurangkan kadar kolestrol
Perah sedikit lemon dan campurkan dengan secamca teh minyak zaitun. Amalkan meminumnya dua atau tiga hari sekali atau setiap kali mengmbil makanan berkolestrol tinggi. InsyaAllah kesannya akan dapat dirasai dalam masa seminggu.Ia juga dapat menghilangkan pembentukan selulit.

Kulit Berkedut
Ambil sebatang lobak merah , bersihkan dan parut, setelah itu campurkan sebiji kuning telur dan secamca besar tepung jagung. Bahan ini dikacau hingg sebati , setelah itu bolehlah dilumurkan pada kulit muka. Lakukan sekali sehari pada waktu malam. Cucilah muka ketika hendak tidur dengan air suam. Amalkan Selalu insyaallah berkesan.

Sakit Gigi
Ambil sebatang serai dan titik bahagian hujungnya.Salai seketika diatas api dan sewaktu masih suam , gigit pada tempat sakit. InsyaAllah sakit akan berkurangan.

Senggugut
Ambil sembilan biji pinang tua , dibakar hingga menjadi arang dan ditumbuk halus. Campurkan dengan secawan air suam dan minum. Amalkan petua ini sembilan hari berturut-turut dari hati mula kedatangan haid. InsyaAllah mujarab.

Petua Menghentikan Pendarahan
Ambil tembakau rokok dan tekapkan pada bahagian yang berdarah. Waktu menekapkannya pada luka hindarkan dari terkena air. Hasilnya , insyaAllah darah akan berhenti mengalir dan luka tidak lagi terasa sakit.

Turunkan suhu Badan Bayi
Gunakan 3 jari tangan anda (ibu jari , telunjuk dan jari hantu), baca bismillah dan selawat 3 kali. Masukkan 3 jari tersebut kedalam beras. Genggam dan lepaskan beras dari genggaman kedalam secawan air masak. Biarkan beras yang melekat pada ketiga jari itu, dan makan beras tersebut. Gunakan air yang bercampur dengan beras tadi untuk disapukan kebadan bayi. InsyaAllah suhu badanbayi akan berkurangan.

Hilangkan Kesan Teh
Ambil saja sedikit ubat gigi dan sapu pada kole atau gelas yang ada kesan berkarat dari teh. Ambil sehelai kain bersih dan gosokkan padanya. InsyaAllah kesan teh akan hilang dengan mudah dan gelas atau kole anda tidak akan tercalar.

Elak ikan melekat ketika digoreng
Seringkah anda menghadapi masalah ketika mengoreng ikan? Anda hanya perlu memasukkan beberapa keping asam keping bersama ikan yang sedang digoreng. Selamat mencuba.

Menjadikan wajah berseri
Kebiasaannya setiap orang mahukan wajah licin terutamanya kaum wanita. Anda tidak perlukan modal yg besar. Basuh beras dan tuskan airnya. Goreng tanpa minyak hingga hangus kemudian tumbuk halus seperti serbuk. Simpan di dalam botol. Apabila hendak digunakan ambil sedikit dan campurkan dengan air limau nipis. Gosok pada muka dan biarkan kering. Setelah itu cuci muka hingga bersih.

Merawat bengkak usus
Penyakit bengkak usus jika dibiarkan amat merbahaya. Jika anda ingin merawatnya, potong sebuku kunyit hidup (dimesin), sedikit garam, sedikit gula merah dan sedikit perahan air limau nipis. Campurkan semua bahan didalam segelas air suam dan diminum. Amalkanlah.

Mengilatkan periuk
Untuk mengilatkan periuk anda, ambil sedikit sabun mandi dan lekatkan pada berus periuk. Selepas itu berus periuk tersebut dengan kuat. Akhir sekali bilas dengan air. Pasti periuk kesayangan anda berkilauan.

Menghilangkan jerawat batu
Kulit yang berjerawat batu mungkin akan merosakkan kecantikan muka terutama bagi kaum wanita. Untuk menghilangkannya, ambil beras, tumbuk hingga halus dan campurkan sedikit air. Gunakan pada waktu hendak tidur tiga kali seminggu. Insyaallah jerawat batu anda akan hilang.

Rawatan jika terkena minyak atau air panas
Ambil sedikit kicap dan garam halus. Kemudian sapukan kedua-dua bahan tadi di tempat yg terkena minyak atau air panas. Sebelum itu berselawatlah keatas Nabi S.A.W sebanyak 3 kali.

Mengelakkan gula dimasuki semut
Masukkan kulit kayu manis ke dalam bekas simpanan gula. Insyaallah semut akan lari.

Menghilangkan demam campak
Caranya sebelum merebak keseluruh badan, pesakit itu hendaklah diberi minum air kelapa dan kemudian mandikan dengan air kelapa itu (boleh dicampur dengan air).

Karipap lebih rangup
Ramai suri rumah merungut apabila kulit karipap yang mereka buat liat dan keras. Cara mengatasi masalah ini mudah iaitu sebelum mengadun marjerinbersama tepung gandum, panaskan marjerin yang telah disukat bersama 1/2 cawan minyak masak. Biarkan mendidih. Tuangkan minyak tadi kedalam adunan tepung, kemudian ulilah seperti biasa. Dengan ini karipap anda akan rangup dan enak.

Melegakan selsema bayi
Ambil sebiji kunyit, patahkan, potong atau tumbuk. Kemudian sapukan pada batang hidung bayi anda. Insyaallah jika selalu diamalkan, hidung bayi anda tidak akan tersumbat dan dia akan tidur nyenyak.

Melembutkan daging
Caranya ialah rebuskan daging yang telah siap dicuci dengan satu camca serbuk soda bikarbonat. Setelah daging lembut bolehlah dicuci dengan air bersih sebelum digunakan untuk memasak sup atau rendang. Juga boleh direbus bersama daun nangka jika tiada serbuk soda.

Menghilangkan parut luka
Bekas parut yang berwarna hitam selalu mengganggu penampilan kita. Usahlah bimbang, ada cara untuk menghilangkannya. Ambil sebiji ubi kentang dan kukus dan apabila sudah masak, lumatkan hingga halus dan tempelkan pada parut tersebut. Biarkan hingga kering dan bekas parut itu akan hilang dengan sendirinya. Amalkan sehingga kesan parut hilang.

Memudahkan mengopek kerang
Memakan makanan memanglah suatu yang melazatkan tetapi untuk mengatasi cara pemakanannya adalah suatu yang membosankan dan menyusahkan terutamanya kerang. Suri rumah tentu mengeluh apabila isi rumah ingin memakan atau meratah makanan ini. Di sini ada petua untuk memudahkan mengopek kerang. Caranya ialah apabila anda merebus kerang, campurkan sesudu minyak masak kedalam air rebusan. mudah-mudahan kerang itu akan terbuka sedikit dan memudahkan anda mengopeknya.

Merawat penyakit buasir
Kebanyakkan kaum lelaki mengalami masalah ini. Cara untuk mengatasinya ialah ambil sebiji kelapa gading yang kecil berwarna kuning, bakar atau panaskan hujungnya. Kemudian tekapkan pada bahagian yang sakit. Lakukan berulang kali sehingga berasa selesa.

Mengatasi bayi demam selepas disuntik
Bagi ibu yang mempunyai anak dan sering demam setiap kali disuntik, bolehlah mencuba petua ini. Selepas anak anda disuntik, sapukan bawang kecil yang dipotong pada tempat yang disuntik. Seeloknya bawang tersebut hendaklah dibawa setiap kali anda keklinik. Insyaallah dengan cara ini dapat mengatasi demam anak.

Menghilangkan gatal getah keladi
Sebelum menyiang keladi pastikan tangan tidak basah. Lumurkan beberapa keping asam keping (asam gelugur) pada tangan. Insyaallah tangan tidak gatal lagi. Seperkara lagi semasa menyiang keladi iaitu semasa menanggalkan kulit nipis dibahagian luarnya, janganlah batang keladi direndam dengan air. Setelah siap kesemuanya, barulah dibasuh bersih dan masukkan bersama beberapa keping asam gelugur jika masih terdapat kegatalan.

Mempercepatkan pembekuan agar-agar
Puding sejuk dan agar-agar kadang-kadang lambat membeku jika terlebih airnya. Untuk mempercepatkan pembekuan, loyangperlu disejukkan didalam peti sejuk tingkat teratas. Apabila cukup sejuk, isikan agar-agar didalamnya. Pasti hasilnya amat memuaskan.

Mengelak kain batik daripada luntur
Untuk mengelakkan kain batik daripada luntur warnanya dan mudah pudar, eloklah digunakan daun betik agar warna kain tetap cantik dan nampak baru. Caranya ialah ambil beberapa helai daun betik dan rebus bersama air. Ketika air rebusan masih panas, masukkan kain batik dan rendam semalaman. Setelah itu bolehlah dicuci seperti biasa. Insyaallah, kain itu tidak akan luntur lagi.

Memudahkan bayi buang air besar
Jika bayi anda sukar buang air besar, cubalah ambil sedikit asam jawa dan gaul atau ramas dengan sedikit air biarkan ia agak pekat kemudian sapulah pada bahagian ubun-ubun bayi anda juga pada pusatnya. Cubalah petua ini dan amalkan setiap hari. Insyaallah bayi anda tiada masalah sebu perut.

Cara merawat penyakit panau
Jika anda ada panau, tentu memalukan. Apatah lagi jika panau ketara pada muka. Cuba petua ini. Ambil sepotong halia, tumbuk lumat kemudian tempelkan pada tempat berpanau. Insyaallah anda akan perolehi hasilnya.

Menghilangkan bau nasi hangit
Untuk menghilangkan bau nasi hangit, caranya ialah ambil beberapa helai daun limau purut, carik-carikkan dan masukkan di dalam nasi hangit - tutup semula tudung periuk. Pasti nasi berbau harum.

Merawat cirit-birit dan menghilangkannya
Bagi mereka yang mengalami cirit-birit, bolehlah mengamalkan makan pucuk jambu batu. Caranya: rendam pucuk jambu batu itu di dalam air panas bersama sedikit garam untuk membersih kekotoran pada pucuk jambu itu. Setelah agak layu, bolehlah terus dimakan. Insyaallah perut tidak lagi sakit dan usus-usus berfungsi dengan baik semula.

Menghentikan hidung berdarah
Cuaca terlalu panas boleh mendatangkan kemudharatan. Antaranya, berlaku pendarahan melalui hidung. Untuk menghentikan segera pendarahan, ambil sehelai daun sirih, gulung hingga kecil dan sumbatkan ke dalam hidung yg berdarah. Insyaallah darah akan cepat berhenti.

Kacang hijau cepat empuk
Apabila kita merebus kacang hijau, masukkan sedikit minyak ke dalam periuk dan letakkan atas api. Banyakny aminyak masak terletak pada banyaknya kacang hijau yang di rebus. Kalau sekilo kacang, masukkan setengah camca minyak. Insyaallah akan cepatlah empuk, lepas tu bolehlah masukkan santan dan gula seandainya membuat bubur kacang.

Cara membersih botol susu hingga berkilat
Menghadapi masalah mencuci botol susu terutamanya yang berbentuk unik? Berus yang tercipta khusus pun tidak mampu mencuci hingga ke celahnya. Cubalah petua ini. Masukkan sedikit beras di dalam botol susu, di campur dengan air panas atau sejuk. Goncang-goncang botol susu itu. Hasilnya bukan saja botol bersih, puting susu juga turut hilang dakinya. Petua ini boleh juga di cuba untuk membersihkan botol air plastik yang lain.

THREE Powerful little Words

The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. These are just three little BUT VERY POWERFUL words !!!

I'll Be There
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You
Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

I Respect You
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

Maybe You're Right
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

Please Forgive Me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

Let Me Help
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I Understand You
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.

Go For It
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

I Love You
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."

WHY? Life's Unanswered Questions

Why does the sun lighten our hair, but darken our skin?

Why can't women put on mascara with their mouth closed?

Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle?

Why don't you ever see the headline "Psychic Wins Lottery"?



Why is "abbreviated" such a long word?

Why is a boxing ring square?

Why is it called lipstick if you can still move your lips?

Why is it that doctors call what they do "practice"?

Why is it that rain drops but snow falls?




Why is it that when you're driving and looking for an address, you turn down the volume on the radio?

Why is lemon juice made with artificial flavor, and dishwashing liquid made with real lemons?

Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?

Why is the third hand on the watch called second hand?



Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?

Why is the word dictionary in the dictionary?

Why isn't there a special name for the tops of your feet?

Why isn't there mouse-flavored cat food?

Why can't they make the whole plane out of the same substance that little indestructible black box is?



Can fat people go skinny-dipping?

Why do you need a driver's license to buy liquor when you can't drink and drive? **

True of False

Can you guess which of the following are true and which are false?

1. Apples, not caffeine, are more efficient at waking you up in the morning.

2. Alfred Hitchcock didn't have a belly button.

3. A pack-a-day smoker will lose approximately 2 teeth every 10 years.

4. People do not get sick from cold weather; it's from being indoors a lot more.

5. When you sneeze, all bodily functions stop, even your heart!

6. Only 7 per cent of the population are lefties.

7. Forty people are sent to the hospital for dog bites every minute.

8. Babies are born without kneecaps. They don't appear until they are 2-6 years old.

9. The average person over 50 will have spent 5 years waiting in lines.

10. The toothbrush was invented in 1498.

11. The average housefly lives for one month.

12. 40,000 Americans are injured by toilets each year.

13. A coat hanger is 44 inches long when straightened.

14. The average computer user blinks 7 times a minute.

15. Your feet are bigger in the afternoon than any other time of day.

16. Most of us have eaten a spider in our sleep.

17. The REAL reason ostriches stick their head in the sand is to search for water.

18. The only two animals that can see behind themselves without
Turning their heads are the rabbit and the parrot.

19. John Travolta turned down the starring roles in "An Officer and a Gentleman" and "Tootsie."

20. Michael Jackson owns the rights to the South Carolina State anthem.

21. In most television commercials advertising milk, a mixture of
White paint and a little thinner is used in place of the milk.

22. Prince Charles and Prince William NEVER travel on the same
Airplane, just in case there is a crash.

23. The first Harley Davidson motorcycle built in 1903 used a tomato can For a carburetor.

24. Most hospitals make money by selling the umbilical cords cut from women Who give birth. They are used in vein transplant surgery.

25. Humphrey Bogart was related to Princess Diana. They were 7th cousins.

26. If coloring weren't added to Coca-Cola, it would be green.


Answers below...





























They are all TRUE... . Now go back and think about #16!!!

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Do You Think Like A Psychopath?

Read this question, come up with an answer. This is not a trick question.

It is as it reads. No one I know so far has got it right.

A woman, while at the funeral of her own mother, met a guy whom she did not know. She thought the man was amazing. She believed him to be her dream hero so much so that she fell in love with him right there, but never asked for his number and could not find him. A few days later she killed her sister.

Question:
What is her motive for killing her sister?

Give this some thought before you look at the answer below.

Answer:
She was hoping the guy would appear at the funeral again.

If you answered this correctly, you think like a psychopath. This supposedly was a test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has the same mentality as a killer.

Several arrested serial killers were given test and answered the question correctly.

If you didn't answer the question correctly, good for you. If you did,admit it, and look for a good doctor

10 Nasihat Luqman Al Hakim Kepada Puteranya

Segala puji bagi Allah SWT, sholawat serta salam semoga tetap terlimpahkan kepada junjungan kita nabi Muhammad SAW, shahabat, keluarga serta orang-orang yang masih berittiba' (mengikuti) kepada beliau sampai hari kiamat.
Al Qur'an adalah sumber hukum dan ilmu pengetahuan yang tak pernah kering untuk ditimba, penuh dengan pelajaran, di dalamnya terdapat hikmah dan teladan. Salah satu isi pokok dari Al Qur'an adalah kisah perjalanan kehidupan para nabi dan rasul serta orang-orang saleh dari umat-umat sebelum nabi Muhammad SAW. Hikmah diceritakannya sirah manusia-manusia pilihan itu tidak lain karena besarnya manfaat dari keteladanan iman, sifat dan akhlaq mereka. Maka disini akan saya angkat sebuah kisah Luqman Al Hakim yang penuh dengan hikmah bagi kita semua.

1. Tidak menyekutukan Allah.
Sebesar-besar kedzaliman dan kemungkaran adalah menyekutukan Allah SWT, sebagaimana firman Allah SWT
"Dan (ingatlah) ketika Luqman berkata kepada anaknya, di waktu ia memberi pelajaran kepadanya: "Hai anakku, janganlah kamu mempersekutukan (Allah) sesungguhnya mempersekutukan (Allah) adalah benar-benar kezaliman yang besar".(Q.S. Luqman:13)

Allah SWT tidak akan mengampuni dosa syirik, kecuali ia bertobat dan meninggalkan perbuatannya. Sesungguhnya hanya Allah sajalah yang berhak untuk disembah (Allahu mustahiqqul 'ibaadah). Dia lah yang berhaq di mintai pertolongan. Hanya kepada-Nyalah segala urusan diserahkan, takut (khouf), berharap (raja') hanya layak ditujukan kepada Allah swt, bukan kepada yang lainnya

2. Berbuat baik kepada kedua orang tua.
Firman Allah SWT.
"Dan Kami perintahkan kepada manusia (berbuat baik) kepada dua orang ibu-bapaknya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dalam keadaan lemah yang bertambah-tambah, dan menyapihnya dalam dua tahun. Bersyukurlah kepada-Ku dan kepada dua orang ibu bapakmu, hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu."( QS.Luqman: 14)
Di dalam riwayat Bukhari, Rasulullah pernah ditanya oleh seorang sahabat:
"Amalan apakah yang dicintai oleh Allah ?Beliau menjawab: Shalat pada waktunya, ia bertanya lagi: Kemudian Apa ?, Beliau menjawab: berbuat baik kepada orang tua, .Ia bertanya lagi: kemudian apa?, Belau menjawab: Jihad di jalan Allah" (shahih Bukhari V/2227, hadits No.5625)

3. Ketaatan kepada kedua orang tua harus dilandasi oleh ketaatan kepada Allah;
karena tidak boleh taat kepada keduanya dalam rangka berbuat maksiat kepada Allah, lebih-lebih menyekutukan Allah ( syirik ). Allah berfirman

"Dan jika keduanya memaksamu untuk mempersekutukan dengan Aku sesuatu yang tidak ada pengetahuanmu tentang itu, maka janganlah kamu mengikuti keduanya, dan pergaulilah keduanya di dunia dengan baik"(QS. Luqman: 14).

4. Mengikuti jalan orang-orang yang kembali kepada Allah SWT
Firman Allah SWT

Dan ikutilah jalan orang yang kembali kepada-Ku, kemudian hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu, maka Ku-beritakan kepadamu apa yang telah kamu kerjakan.(QS. Luqman: 15)

Disini Luqman memberikan sebuah nasehat kepada anaknya agar ia mengikuti jejak orang-orang yang kembali kepada Allah SWT yaitu para nabi dan rasul serta orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal shaleh, yang selalu bertaubat kepada Allah SWT, yang telah diberi Allah SWT hidayah, yaitu tetap dalam agama yang hanif yakni Islam.

5. Allah akan membalas semua perbuatan manusia.

Firman Allah swt :
(Luqman berkata): "Hai anakku, sesungguhnya jika ada (sesuatu perbuatan) seberat biji sawi, dan berada dalam batu atau di langit atau di dalam bumi, niscaya Allah akan mendatangkannya (membalasinya). Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Halus lagi Maha Mengetahui.(Q.S: 16)

"Maka Barangsiapa yang mengerjakan kebaikan seberat dzarrahpun, niscaya dia akan melihat (balasan) nya. Dan barangsiapa yang mengerjakan kejahatan seberat dzarrahpun, niscaya dia akan melihat (balasan) nya pula". (QS. Al Zalzalah: 7-8).

6. Menegakkan sholat.

Shalat adalah tiang agama, sehingga ia tidak akan tegak tanpa shalat. Maka sebagai seorang yang beriman kita diwajibkan menegakkannya. Sebagaimana firman Allah SWT dalam Surah Luqman ayat 17 yang berbunyi :

"Hai anakku, dirikanlah shalat !"
Shalat dapat mencegah manusia dari perbuatan keji dan mungkar, sebagaimana firman Allah SWT.
!"Dan dirikanlah shalat. Sesungguhnya shalat itu mencegah dari (perbuatan-perbuatan) keji dan mungkar." (QS. Al 'Ankabuut: 45)

7. Amar Ma'ruf nahi Munkar.
Ada dua komponen penting dalam Islam yang memberikan sebuah dorongan yang kuat kepada setiap muslim untuk mendakwahkan agama yang dianutnya, yaitu Amar ma'ruf nahi mungkar (memerintahkan berbuat kebajikan dan mencegah yang mungkar). Perintah untuk beramar ma'ruf nahi mungkar sangat banyak di dalam Al Qur'an seperti :

"Dan hendaklah ada di antara kamu segolongan umat yang menyeru kepada kebajikan, menyuruh kepada yang ma`ruf dan mencegah dari yang munkar; merekalah orang-orang yang beruntung".(QS. Ali Imran:104).

8. Bersabar terhadap apa yang menimpa kita.
Sesungguhnya segala cobaan yang menimpa seorang muslim itu adalah merupakan sesuatu yang mesti terjadi karena itulah bentuk ujian (ikhtibar) dari Allah SWT, apakah ia sabar atau tidak ?, firman Allah SWT.

"Dan bersabarlah terhadap apa yang menimpa kamu. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu termasuk hal-hal yang diwajibkan (oleh Allah)."(QS. Luqman:17)

9. Tidak Menyombongkan diri
Sifat takabur atau merasa besar dihadapan manusia adalah sifat yang dibenci oleh Allah SWT.

"Dan janganlah kamu memalingkan mukamu dari manusia (karena sombong) dan janganlah kamu berjalan di muka bumi dengan angkuh. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang-orang yang sombong lagi membanggakan diri."

10. Bersikap pertengahan dalam segala hal dan berakhlaq yang baik
Islam tidak menghendaki sikap Ghuluw (berlebih-lebihan) juga tidak menginginkan untuk bersikap tahawun (meremehkan) dalam segala hal termasuk juga dalam perkara-perkara yang menurut penilaian sebagian orang dianggap kecil seperti sikap berjalan, berbicara dsb. Allah SWT mengatur itu semua sebagaimana firmanNya:

"Dan sederhanalah kamu dalam berjalan dan lunakkanlah suaramu. Sesungguhnya seburuk-buruk suara ialah suara keledai."

Manusia akan mempunyai nilai jika menampakkan akhlaq yang baik, karena tujun diutusnya Rasulullah SAW selain untuk menyeru kepada Allah ( Ad-dakwah ilallah) adalah untuk menyempurnakan Akhlaq dan budi pekerti

Inspirasikan Hidup Anda : Berdoalah.....

Dan apabila hamba-hamba-Ku bertanya kepadamu tentang Aku, maka (jawablah), bahwasanya Aku adalah dekat. Aku mengabulkan permohonan orang yang berdoa apabila ia memohon kepada-Ku, maka hendaklah mereka itu memenuhi (segala perintah) Ku dan hendaklah mereka beriman kepada-Ku, agar mereka selalu berada dalam kebenaran... ... ..2 : 186

Katakanlah: "Siapakah yang dapat menyelamatkan kamu dari bencana di darat dan di laut, yang kamu berdoa kepada-Nya dengan berendah diri dan dengan suara yang lembut (dengan mengatakan): "Sesungguhnya jika Dia menyelamatkan kami dari (bencana) ini, tentulah kami menjadi orang-orang yang bersyukur."... ... ..6 : 63

Berdoalah kepada Tuhanmu dengan berendah diri dan suara yang lembut. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang-orang yang melampaui batas... ... 7 : 55

Dan janganlah kamu membuat kerusakan di muka bumi, sesudah (Allah) memperbaikinya dan berdoalah kepada-Nya dengan rasa takut (tidak akan diterima) dan harapan (akan dikabulkan). Sesungguhnya rahmat Allah amat dekat kepada orang-orang yang berbuat baik... ... .7 : 56

Ambillah zakat dari sebagian harta mereka, dengan zakat itu kamu membersihkan dan mensucikan mereka, dan berdoalah untuk mereka. Sesungguhnya doa kamu itu (menjadi) ketenteraman jiwa bagi mereka. Dan Allah Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengetahui... ... .. 9 : 103

Dan apabila manusia ditimpa bahaya dia berdoa kepada Kami dalam keadaan berbaring, duduk atau berdiri, tetapi setelah Kami hilangkan bahaya itu daripadanya, dia (kembali) melalui (jalannya yang sesat), seolah-olah dia tidak pernah berdoa kepada Kami untuk (menghilangkan) bahaya yang telah menimpanya. Begitulah orang-orang yang melampaui batas itu memandang baik apa yang selalu mereka kerjakan... ... 10 : 12

Dan kepada Tsamud (Kami utus) saudara mereka Saleh. Saleh berkata: "Hai kaumku, sembahlah Allah, sekali-kali tidak ada bagimu Tuhan selain Dia. Dia telah menciptakan kamu dari bumi (tanah) dan menjadikan kamu pemakmurnya, karena itu mohonlah ampunan-Nya, kemudian bertobatlah kepada-Nya. Sesungguhnya Tuhanku amat dekat (rahmat-Nya) lagi memperkenankan (doa hamba-Nya)."... ... ... .11 : 61

Hanya bagi Allah-lah (hak mengabulkan) doa yang benar. Dan berhala-berhala yang mereka sembah selain Allah tidak dapat memperkenankan sesuatu pun bagi mereka, melainkan seperti orang yang membukakan kedua telapak tangannya ke dalam air supaya sampai air ke mulutnya, padahal air itu tidak dapat sampai ke mulutnya. Dan doa (ibadah) orang-orang kafir itu, hanyalah sia-sia belaka... ... ..13 : 14

Dan manusia berdoa untuk kejahatan sebagaimana ia berdoa untuk kebaikan. Dan adalah manusia bersifat tergesa-gesa" ... ... ... .17 : 11

Dan (ingatlah kisah) Nuh, sebelum itu ketika dia berdoa, dan Kami memperkenankan doanya, lalu Kami selamatkan dia beserta pengikutnya dari bencana yang besar... ... ..21 : 76



Sesungguhnya, ada segolongan dari hamba-hamba-Ku berdoa (di dunia): "Ya Tuhan kami, kami telah beriman, maka ampunilah kami dan berilah kami rahmat dan Engkau adalah Pemberi rahmat Yang Paling Baik... ... ... .23 : 109

Berkata Ibrahim: "Apakah berhala-berhala itu mendengar (doa) mu sewaktu kamu berdoa (kepadanya)?,... ... ... .26 : 72

Atau siapakah yang memperkenankan (doa) orang yang dalam kesulitan apabila ia berdoa kepada-Nya, dan yang menghilangkan kesusahan dan yang menjadikan kamu (manusia) sebagai khalifah di bumi? Apakah di samping Allah ada tuhan (yang lain)? Amat sedikitlah kamu mengingati (Nya)... ... ... .27 : 62

Dan tiadalah kehidupan dunia ini melainkan senda gurau dan main-main. Dan sesungguhnya akhirat itulah yang sebenarnya kehidupan, kalau mereka mengetahui... ... ... .29 : 64

Maka apabila mereka naik kapal mereka mendoa kepada Allah dengan memurnikan ketaatan kepada-Nya; maka tatkala Allah menyelamatkan mereka sampai ke darat, tiba-tiba mereka (kembali) mempersekutukan (Allah),... ... ... 29 : 65



Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang beriman dengan ayat-ayat Kami, adalah orang-orang yang apabila diperingatkan dengan ayat-ayat (Kami), mereka menyungkur sujud dan bertasbih serta memuji Tuhannya, sedang mereka tidak menyombongkan diri... ... ..32 : 15


Lambung mereka jauh dari tempat tidurnya, sedang mereka berdoa kepada Tuhannya dengan rasa takut dan harap, dan mereka menafkahkan sebahagian dari rezeki yang Kami berikan kepada mereka... ... ..32 : 16


Dan apabila manusia itu ditimpa kemudaratan, dia memohon (pertolongan) kepada Tuhannya dengan kembali kepada-Nya; kemudian apabila Tuhan memberikan nikmat-Nya kepadanya lupalah dia akan kemudaratan yang pernah dia berdoa (kepada Allah) untuk (menghilangkannya) sebelum itu, dan dia mengada-adakan sekutu-sekutu bagi Allah untuk menyesatkan (manusia) dari jalan-Nya. Katakanlah: "Bersenang-senanglah dengan kekafiranmu itu sementara waktu; sesungguhnya kamu termasuk penghuni neraka"... ... ... ..39 : 8

Dan Tuhanmu berfirman: "Berdoalah kepada-Ku, niscaya akan Kuperkenankan bagimu. Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang menyombongkan diri dari menyembah-Ku akan masuk neraka Jahanam dalam keadaan hina dina"... ... ... ..40 : 60



Manusia tidak jemu memohon kebaikan, dan jika mereka ditimpa malapetaka dia menjadi putus asa lagi putus harapan... ... ..41 : 49

Dan jika Kami merasakan kepadanya sesuatu rahmat dari Kami sesudah dia ditimpa kesusahan, pastilah dia berkata: "Ini adalah hakku, dan aku tidak yakin bahwa hari kiamat itu akan datang. Dan jika aku dikembalikan kepada Tuhanku maka sesungguhnya aku akan memperoleh kebaikan pada sisi-Nya". Maka Kami benar-benar akan memberitakan kepada orang-orang kafir apa yang telah mereka kerjakan dan akan Kami rasakan kepada mereka azab yang keras... ... ..41 : 50

Dan apabila Kami memberikan nikmat kepada manusia, ia berpaling dan menjauhkan diri; tetapi apabila ia ditimpa malapetaka maka ia banyak berdoa... ... 41 : 51



Dan Dialah yang menerima tobat dari hamba-hamba-Nya dan memaafkan kesalahan-kesalahan dan mengetahui apa yang kamu kerjakan,... ... ..42 : 25

dan Dia memperkenankan (doa) orang-orang yang beriman serta mengerjakan amal yang saleh dan menambah (pahala) kepada mereka dari karunia-Nya. Dan orang-orang yang kafir bagi mereka azab yang sangat keras... ... ..42 : 26

Dan jika Allah melapangkan rezeki kepada hamba-hamba-Nya tentulah mereka akan melampaui batas di muka bumi, tetapi Allah menurunkan apa yang dikehendaki-Nya dengan ukuran. Sesungguhnya Dia Maha Mengetahui (keadaan) hamba-hamba-Nya lagi Maha Melihat... ... ..42 : 27


Dan Dialah Yang menurunkan hujan sesudah mereka berputus asa dan menyebarkan rahmat-Nya. Dan Dialah Yang Maha Pelindung lagi Maha Terpuji... ... .42 : 28

Dan siapakah yang lebih sesat daripada orang yang menyembah sembahan-sembahan selain Allah yang tiada dapat memperkenankan (doa) nya sampai hari kiamat dan mereka lalai dari (memperhatikan) doa mereka?... ... ... ... 46 : 5

Dan orang-orang yang datang sesudah mereka (Muhajirin dan Ansar), mereka berdoa: "Ya Tuhan kami, beri ampunlah kami dan saudara-saudara kami yang telah beriman lebih dahulu dari kami, dan janganlah Engkau membiarkan kedengkian dalam hati kami terhadap orang-orang yang beriman; Ya Tuhan kami, sesungguhnya Engkau Maha Penyantun lagi Maha Penyayang"... ... ... ..59 : 10

Kesilapan Kerap Wanita Tentang Aurat

Ketika ini, saya mengambil masa sekitar satu jam untuk ke pejabat, memandu kereta dari Puchong ke Jalan Sultan Ismail. Setiap hari, laluan jalan pergi dan pulang ini akan mempamerkan kejahilan wanita Islam hari ini tentang penutupan aurat. Di manakah kesilapan penutupan aurat wanita hari ini ?. Jawabnya seperti berikut

KESALAHAN PERTAMA : Aurat itu adalah memakai tudung sahaja.

KESALAHAN KEDUA : Bertudung tetapi ber?T-Shirt' berlengan pendek.

KESALAHAN KETIGA : Bertudung tetapi baju kebarungnya terbelah kainnya.

KESALAHAN KEEMPAT : Bertudung tetapi bajunya sendat, sempit dan nipis lalu memaparkan bentuk kawasan-kawasan mudah ?menggoda'.

KESALAHAN KELIMA : Bertudung tetapi amat longgar dan menayangkan jambul dan hujung rambutnya.

KESALAHAN KEENAM : Bertudung tetapi hanya memakainya di pejabat sahaja. Tidak di sekitar rumah, pasaraya dan sebagainya.

KESALAHAN KETUJUH : Bertudung tetapi tudungnya dilempar ke belakang leher, maka terdedahlah dadanya dari ditutupi kain tudung.

KESALAHAN KELAPAN : Bertudung tetapi dengan tudung yang amat nipis sehingga boleh diihat sanggul, leher, tengkuk dan dadanya.


Sebahagian wanita menyangka bahawa tutup aurat tu adalah tutup rambut sahaja. Ia adalah tidak tepat sama sekali. Asasnya adalah dari firman Allah SWT: ertinya :


"Hendaknya mereka itu melabuhkan tudungnya sampai ke dadanya, dan JANGANLAH KAMU MENDEDAHAKN AURAT DAN PERHIASAN KAMU KECUALI APA YANG TERZAHIR." (an-Nur: 31)


Pengertian khumur (tudung), iaitu semua alat yang dapat dipakai untuk menutup kepala. Sedang apa yang disebut ?juyub' kata jama' (bentuk plural) dari kata jaibun, yaitu belahan dada yang terbuka, tidak tertutup oleh pakaian/baju.

Setiap perempuan Islam wajib menutup kepalanya dengan tudung dan bahagian dadanya termasuk juga leher, sehingga semua tempat-tempat yang boleh membawa fitnah tertutup dari perkara yang memungkinkan dilihat oleh orang-orang yang jahat hatinya.

Menurut Syeikh Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi yang dimaksud perhiasan perempuan dalam ayat itu pula, iaitu apa saja yang dipakai berhias dan untuk mempercantik tubuh, baik berbentuk ciptaan asli seperti wajah, rambut dan potongan tubuh, ataupun buatan seperti pakaian, perhiasan, make-up dan sebagainya.

Dalam ayat di atas Allah memerintahkan kepada orang-orang perempuan supaya menyembunyikan perhiasan tersebut dan melarang untuk dinampak-nampakkan. Allah tidak memberikan pengecualian, melainkan apa yang terzahir. Oleh karena itu para ulama kemudian berbeza pendapat tentang erti apa terzahir itu serta ukurannya.

Misalnya sahabat besar Nabi seperti Ibnu Abbas r.a, ia berkata dalam menafsirkan apa yang terzahir itu adalah : celak dan cincin.

Yang berpendapat seperti ini ialah sahabat Anas Bin Malik. Justeru, harus dilihat celak dan cincin wanita, bererti boleh dilihatnya juga kedua tempatnya pemakaiannya, iaitu muka dan kedua tapak tangan. Demikianlah apa yang ditegaskan oleh ulama Tabien seperti Said bin Jubair, 'Atha', Auza'i dan lain-lain.

Bagaimanapun Ummul Mukminin Aisyah r.a, Qatadah dan lain-lain menisbatkan gelang sebagai perhiasan yang boleh dilihat. Dengan demikian, maka tempat letak gelang iaitu di pergelangan tangan adalah dibolehkan jika tiada fitnah. Tetapi berkenaan batasnya dari pergelangan sampai ke siku, masih diperselisihkan. Seeloknya di jauhi dari mendedahkannya.

Menurut Syeikh Al-Qaradawi juga, ini tidak sama dengan make-up dan cat-cat yang biasa dipakai oleh perempuan-perempuan zaman sekarang untuk memakai gincu dan bedak merah di pipi serta kuku. Make-up ini semua termasuk berlebih-lebihan yang sangat tidak baik, yang tidak boleh dipakai kecuali di dalam rumah. Sebab perempuan-perempuan sekarang memakai itu semua di luar rumah, adalah untuk menarik perhatian laki-laki. Jadi jelas hukumnya adalah haram.

Namun, kiranya sesempurna mungkin seorang muslimah harus bersungguh-sungguh untuk menyembunyikan perhiasannya, termasuk wajahnya itu sendiri kalau mungkin, demi menjaga meluasnya kerusakan dan banyaknya kefasikan di zaman kita sekarang ini. Lebih-lebih kalau perempuan tersebut mempunyai paras yang cantik yang sangat dikawatirkan akan menimbulkan fitnah.

"Dan hendaknya mereka itu tidak menampak-nampakkan aurat dan perhiasannya kecuali terhadap suami atau ayahnya." (an-Nur: 31)

Kesemua jenis berpakaian yang disebut tadi adalah diharamkan secara sepakat seluruh Ulama Islam. Pengarahan ini tertuju kepada perempuan-perempuan mu'minah, dimana mereka dilarang keras membuka atau menampakkan perhiasannya yang seharusnya disembunyikan, misalnya: perhiasan telinga (anting-anting), perhiasan rambut (sanggul); perhiasan leher (rantai), perhiasan dada (belahan dadanya) dan perhiasan kaki (betis dan gelang kaki). Semuanya ini tidak boleh dinampakkan kepada laki-laki lain. Mereka hanya boleh melihat muka dan kedua tapak tangan yang memang ada rukhsah untuk dinampakkan.

Amat jelas dari dalil al-Quran dan al-Hadith bahawa Islam mengharamkan perempuan memakai pakaian yang membentuk dan nipis sehingga nampak kulitnya. Termasuk diantaranya ialah pakaian yang dapat menampakkan bahagian-bahagian tubuh, khususnya tempat-tempat yang membawa fitnah, seperti: buah dada, paha, dan sebagainya.


Dalam hadisnya yang diriwayatkan oleh Abu Hurairah, Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:


"Ada dua golongan dari ahli neraka yang belum pernah saya lihat keduanya itu: (l) Kaum yang membawa cambuk seperti ekor sapi yang mereka pakai buat memukul orang (penguasa yang kejam); (2) Perempuan-perempuan yang berpakaian tetapi telanjang, yang cenderung kepada perbuatan maksiat dan mencenderungkan orang lain kepada perbuatan maksiat, rambutnya sebesar punuk unta. Mereka ini tidak akan boleh masuk syurga, serta tidak dapat akan mencium bau syurga, padahal bau syurga itu tercium sejauh perjalanan demikian dan demikian." (Riwayat Muslim)


Mereka dikatakan berpakaian, karena memang mereka itu melilitkan pakaian pada tubuhnya, tetapi pada hakikatnya pakaiannya itu tidak berfungsi menutup aurat, karena itu mereka dikatakan telanjang, karena pakaiannya terlalu tipis sehingga dapat memperlihatkan kulit tubuh, seperti kebanyakan pakaian perempuan sekarang ini. ( Al-Halal Wal Haram Fil Islam, Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi)


?Bukhtun' adalah salah satu macam daripada unta yang mempunyai kelasa (punuk) besar; rambut orang-orang perempuan seperti punuk unta tersebut karena rambutnya ditarik ke atas.

Disebalik keghaiban ini, seolah-olah Rasulullah melihat apa yang terjadi di zaman sekarang ini yang kini diwujudkan dalam bentuk dandanan rambut, dengan pelbagai macam bentuk dalam salon-salon kecantikan, lebih parah pula apabila kaum lelaki pula yang bekerja di salon seperti ini

Larangan Nipis

Saidatina Aisyah r.a meriwayatkan, saudaranya iaitu Asma' binti Abubakar pernah masuk di rumah Nabi dengan berpakaian jarang sehingga tampak kulitnya. Kemudian baginda SAW berpaling dan mengatakan:

"Hai Asma'! Sesungguhnya seorang perempuan apabila sudah haidh (cukup umurnya), tidak patut diperlihatkan tubuhnya itu, melainkan ini dan ini -- sambil ia menunjuk muka dan dua tapak tangannya." (Riwayat Abu Daud)

Walaupun terdapat perawi lemah dari hadis, tetapi diperkuat dengan hadis-hadis lain yang membolehkan melihat muka dan dua tapak tangan ketika diyakini tidak akan membawa fitnah.

Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi menegaskan bahawa melihat secara normal kepada wanita atau lelaki, kepada selain aurat, selama tidak dilakukan dengan syahwat dan berulang-ulang, hukumnya adalah halal. (Al-Halal Wal Haram Fil Islam)

KESALAHAN KESEMBILAN : Bertudung tetapi menaiki motor sambil menayangkan betis sepanjang jalan.

Diriwayatkan dalam sebuah Hadith /font>

Ertinya : Allah sentiasa merahmati para wanita yang memakai seluar panjang (di sebelah dalamnya) (Riwayat Al-?Uqayli, Dar Qutni dari Abu Hurairah, Musannaf Abd Razak, no 5043; Kanzul Ummal, no 41245) .

Menurut Imam Mujahid, hadith ini berlaku di satu ketika ada seorang wanita jatuh dari kenderaannya sehingga terselak kainnya di hadapan Nabi dan para sahabat, maka dengan segera Nabi SAW memalingkan wajahnya, maka para sahabat berkata dia (wanita itu) memakai seluar. Lalu sebagai respond Rasulllah SAW memuji dan menyebut hadith di atas. ( Al-Bayan wa At-Ta'rif, Ibn Hamzah al-Husyani, 3/ 252, no 1831)

Berdasarkan dalil ini juga, bermakna Allah sentiasa melaknati wanita yang tiadk berseluar panjang (di sebelah dalamnya) semasa naik kenderaan. Demikian menurut kaedah Mafhum Mukhalafah di dalam ilmu Usul Fiqh.

KESALAHAN KESEPULUH : Bertudung dan sempurna penutupan aurat tubuhnya tetapi memanja-manjakan suaranya ketika berinteraksi dengan lelaki. Samada menyanyi mahupun bernasyid. Tiada dakwah yag sesuai buat wanita menerusi nyanyian kerana sesaat sahaj ia berada di atas pentas dengan pakaian canggihnya, seribu mata lelaki yang memandangnya..kita tidak tahu dimanakah mata lelaki itu memandang. Suaranya yang merdu juga membuatkan lelaki yang rosak hatinya akan dibuai nafsu, walaupun penasyid wanita itu sedang mendendangkan lagu ketuhanan.

Larangan ini datang dari Firman Allah SWT : "Janganlah perempuan-perempuan itu berlaku lemah dengan perkataannya, sebab akan menaruh harapan orang yang dalam hatinya ada penyakit." (al-Ahzab: 32)


TUJUAN TUNTUTAN MENUTUP AURAT

Berdasarkan dalil Al-Quran dan al-Hadith, amat jelas bahawa isu aurat bukanlah isu remeh dan cabang. Ia adalah termasuk dalam katergori hukum qati'e dan usul. Malah ia juga merupakan salah satu dosa utama yang amat diperjuangkan oleh Syaitan. Ini adalah kerana, dengan terbukanya aurat, maka ia boleh mencambahkan dosa-dosa lain seperti zina, mengandung anak luar nikah, bercerai suami isteri akibat curang, membunuh anak luar nikah, putusnya hubungan keluarga dan pelbagai lagi. Perihal Syaitan mensasarkan dosa 'buka aurat' ini sebagai dosa pilihan utamanya ada disebutkan dalam Al-Quran dari firman Allah ertinya

" Maka Syaitan membisikkan fikiran jahat kepada keduanya untuk menampakkan kepada keduanya yang tertutup dari mereka iaitu auratnya .." Al-A'raf : 20)

Ringkasnya, antara tujuan utama diwajibkan umat Islam lelaki dan wanita untuk menutup aurat adalah /font>


a) Perbezaan dengan binatang.

Allah SWT berfirman :

" Wahai anak Adam, telah kami turunkan buat kamu pakaian yang boleh menutup aurat-aurat kamu dan untuk perhiasan" ( Al-A'raf : 26)

Amat jelas dari ayat ini, penutupan aurat ditujukan kepada sesiapa sahaja yang termasuk dalam kategori anak Adam iaitu manusia. Justeru barangsiapa yang berpaling dari arahan ini, secara langsung ia menjatuhkan tahapnya selari dengan binatang yang tiada cukup kemampuan dan aqal bagi menjalankan arahan penutupan aurat.

b) Agar kaum wanita tidak disakiti

Ia berdasarkan ulasan yang telah saya buat sebelum ini bersandarkan firman Allah SWT dari surah Al-Ahzab ayat 59.

c) Tanda atau seperti uniform kepada penganut agama Islam.

Ia juga boleh difahami dari surah Azhab ayat 59 tadi apabila Allah SWT menyebut : « .. yang demikian itu lebih memastikan mereka agar dikenali (sebagai wanita Islam).. »


Dari sini jelas, menunjukkan salah satu fungsi tutupan aurat juga adalah sebagai syiar diri sebagai penganut Islam. Firman Allah : « Barangsiapa yang membesarkan syiar Allah maka ia adalah dari tanda ketaqwaan hati »

d) Tanda profesionalism dalam sistem pemakaian Islam. Kita dapat memerhati bagaimana ?trend' sesebuah organisasi atau restoran hebat hari ini pasti meletakkan ?dress code' tertentu bagi kakitangannya dan para tetamunya. Ia pastinya bertujuan penjagaan standard khas bagi organisasi dan restoran itu di tahap tertentu. Sebagai contoh, kita tidak akan dapat melihat individu berselipar Jepun di sebuah Persidangan Antarabangsa di PICC, Putrajaya mahupun di kalangan kakitangan PETRONAS di pejabat mereka di Menara Berkembar. Semua menjaga ?standard' berbanding Tauke kedai runcit yang tidak beruniform.

Justeru, Islam adalah satu agama dan cara hidup yang profesional pastinya begitu lengkap menyediakan panduan melengkapi setiap sudut kehidupan manusia. Dari hal-hal yang sulit seperti urusan di dalam tandas hinggalah ekonomi dan kenegaraan. Walaupun demikian, Islam tidak mengarah umatnya membuat perkara yang tidak rasional, justeru, sudah tentu ?standard' pemakaian yang diletakkan ini tidak membebankan bahkan ia amat bertepatan dengan logik aqal manusia yang sihat.

e) Sebagai ujian bagi manusia untuk melihat tahap ketaatan mereka kepada Allah SWT.

Saya kira hal ini amat jelas, dari firman Allah ertinya : Dijadikan hidup dan mati adalah untuk menguji siapakah yang terlebih baik amalannya" (Al-Mulk : 2)

DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER

Ungkapan ini kerap saya dengari, saya yakin anda juga mungkin kerap mendengarnya. Kata-kata dari wanita yang tidak menutup aurat yang sering mendakwa bahawa hatinya baik dan suci walaupun ia berpakaian seksi serta mendedahkan aurat.

"Orang wanita bertudung pun banyak yang jahat hari ini, berzina, khalwat dan macam-macam lagi" Katanya memberi buah fikirannya.

"Malah, kami juga baik, kami tak kacau orang, tak mengumpat dan buat benda-benda tak elok" tambah wanita ini lagi.

Benarkah hujjah mereka?. Benarkah penampilan luaran tidak terpakai di dalam Islam ?. Ada juga yang sudah semakin ?advance' hujahnya lantas berhujjah dengan sebuah maksud hadith Nabi yang sohih iaitu :

"Sesungguhnya Allah tidak melihat kepada tubuh, rupa luaran dan harta kamu, tetapi melihat kepada hati dan amalan kamu" (Riwayat Muslim)

Simpati bercampur kesal saya mendengar bagaimana terdapat orang yang sewenangnya berhujjah dengan hadith untuk menyokong nafsunya. Hanya digunakan Islam dalam hal yang selari dengan kehendaknya sahaja.

"Seorang pekerja yang dijumpai oleh majikannya sedang bermain ?game' semasa waktu kerjanya sedangkan dokumen yang dipinta si boss masih tidak disiapkan, lalu si majikan berkata: "Macam mana kamu nak cemerlang dalam kerja kalau begini sikap kamu"

Lalu jawab si pekerja : " Saya luaran je nampak main ?game' boss, tapi hati saya ikhlas dan saya kerja dengan cemerlang"

Adakah anda rasa si boss boleh menerima cakap pekerjanya itu ?. Adakah Allah SWT boleh mengganggap hati seseorang itu suci dan baik dengan melanggar perintahNya ?

Hakikatnya, sesuatu untuk baik dan suci mestilah ditentukan mengikut neraca Allah dan RasulNya, bukannya neraca pemikiran kita semata-mata. Jika merujuk kepada neraca Islam, Nabi SAW pernah bersabda ertinya :


"Ketahuilah, bahawa di dalam diri anak Adam itu ada seketul daging, yang bila ianya baik maka baik seseorang itu, dan apabila buruk, buruklah amalan seseorang itu, ketahuilah, ia adalah hati" (Riwayat Muslim)

Berdasarkan hadith ini, menurut neraca Islam kebaikan hati seseorang boleh dilihat di peringkat pertamanya dari tindak tanduknya. Ertinya, bila tindakannya sentiasa menyalahi kehendak dan hukum yang diletakkan Islam, ia adalah tanda kekotoran hatinya. Jika tindakan luarannya pula bertepatan dengan kehendak Islam, maka adalah harus ianya dianggap baik pada peringkat pertama iaitu neraca luaran orang ramai, adapun baik di peringkat kedua adalah samada hatinya bertujuan kerana Allah ata selainnya seperti sekadar menunjuk-nunjuk sahaja.


Justeru, 'we can judge a book by its cover in certain cases' iaitu apabila perkara asas Islam dilanggar, maka sudah tentu ?that cover is reflecting what's inside the heart of a person'.

Menghukum berdasarkan yang zahir ini bertepatan dengan hadith :

Ertinya : Sesungguhnya aku hanya manusia, dan kamu sentiasa membawa kes pertikaian untuk di selesaikan olehku, dan mungkin sebahagian kami lebih cekap berhujjah dari sebahagian lainnya, maka aku telah memutuskan hukuman berdasarkan apa yang kudengari sahaja. Barangsiapa yang telah ku jatuhi hukuman dan hukuman itu mengambil hak yang lain (akibat kurang cekap pihak yang benar dalam berhujjah), maka jangalah kamu mengambilnya, sesungguhnya ia bakal menjadi sepotong api neraka" (Riwayat Abu Daud, Tirmidzi dan lain-lain ; Rujuk Naylul Awtar, 8/632, no 3920 )


Hadith ini dengan jelas menunjukkan seorang hakim dalam Islam akan membuat hukum berdasarkan info dan bukti zahir yang diberikan. Demikian juga dalam kes penutupan aurat, tanpa menutupnya adalah tanda keingkaran hati terhadap arahan Allah. Mana mungkin hati begini boleh dianggap baik oleh Islam.

Kaum wanita perlu menyedari bahawa dengan pembukaan auratnya, setiap lelaki yang melihatnya akan memperoleh dosa setiap kali ia memandang. Tetapi yang beratnya adalah si wanita bukan mendaat satu dosa bagi kesalahan itu, tetapi juga meraih setiap dosa semua lelaki yang memandangnya. Bayangkanlah berapa banyak dosa yang diperolehi hanya dengan pembukaan aurat di satu hari. Ia berdasarkan sabda Nabi SAW


Ertinya : Sesiapa yang mempelopori sesuatu yang buruk, maka ke atasnya dosa dan dosa setiap orang yang membuatnya tanpa sedikit kurang pun dosanya.." ( Riwayat Ahmad dan lain-lain : Sohih )

Termasuklah dalam erti mempelopori, apabila seseorang itu mempelopori pembukaan auratnya di hari itu, yang menyebabkan lelaki melihatnya mendapat dosa. Pastinya, si wanita itu juga mendapat dosa tanpa kurang bagi setiap mata yang memandang. Adakah hati orang sebegini boleh dikira baik ? setelah gunungan dosa mengaratkan hatinya ?.

Sesungguhnya Allah itu maha adil dan maha pengasih. Segeralah mendapatkan kasih sayang Allah dengan mentaatinya. Bagi yang berdegil, tiada kata yang dapat diberikan kecuali ; Yakinilah bahawa Allah itu benar, RasulNya juga benar, Syurga dan Neraka juga benar. Jika mempercayainya maka mengapa tindakan masih seolah meraguinya. ?



Sekian

Bangunan Tidak Rosak/Pemilik Yg Tidak Bolih Mati

Assalamualaikum... .

Diriwayatkan seorang raja berhasil membangunkan kota dengan segala keperluannya yang cukup hebat dan megah. Kemudian raja itu mengundang rakyatnya untuk berpesta ria menyaksikan kota itu. Pada setiap pintu, penjaga diperintahkan untuk menanyai setiap pengunjung adakah cacat cela dan kekurangan kota yang dibangunnya itu.

Hampir seluruh orang yang ditanyai tidak ada cacat dan celanya. Tetapi ada sebahagian pengunjung yang menjawabnya bahawa kota itu mengandungi dua cacat celanya. Sesuai dengan perintah raja, mereka ditahan untuk dihadapkan kepada raja.

"Apa lagi cacat dan cela kota ini... ?" tanya raja.

"Kota ini akan rosak dan pemiliknya akan mati." Jawab orang itu.

"Apakah ada kota yang tidak akan rosak dan pemiliknya tidak akan mati... ?"

"Ada, bangunan yang tidak boleh rosak selamanya dan pemiliknya tidak akan mati." Jawab mereka.

"Segera katakan di mana dan siapakah itu." desak raja.

"Syurga dan Allah pemiliknya," jawabnya tegas...

Mendengar cerita tentang syurga dan segala keindahannnya itu, sang raja menjadi tertarik dan merinduinya. Apa lagi ketika mereka menceritakan tentang keadaan dan neraka dan azabnya bagi manusia yang sombong dan ingin menandingi Allah. Akhirnya raja itu kembali ke jalan Allah ditinggalkan segala kemegahan kerajaanyanya dan jadilah ia hamba yang taat dan beribadah kepada Allah. Wallahhualam... ..

Marrying a pregnant lady

Pls. pass to all your muslim friends... .

If it is not too much to find out kesahihan Q2 & Q3... because many of Muslim actually get their children marry off once they know that their daughter is carrying an illegitimate child. A question was asked of the Imam recently, which raised many other questions. I would like to share them with you, as they are very important:

Question 1 : What is the correct thing to do when a girl becomes pregnant outside of marriage?
Answer 1 : She should not marry anyone until the baby is born.

Question 2 : Assuming the father of the child wants to marry her, can he?
Answer 2 : No, he cannot marry her, until the baby is born.

Question 3 : Is the marriage valid if they did marry?
Answer 3 : No, the marriage contract is invalid. A Muslim cannot marry a pregnant woman, even if he is the biological father.

Question 4 : If they married, what should they do now to correct it?
Answer 4 : They should separate. She should wait for confirm that she is not pregnant. They can then marry, as this will be now a legal marriage by Islamic law.

Question 5 : What if they don't correct it?
Answer 5 : They will still living in a relationship of Zina as the marriage contract is not valid.

Question 6 : What are the rights of the child that was conceived outside marriage?
Answer 6 : According to the scholars, the child is not the father by
Islamic law. Hence, the child cannot inherit from the rights over the child. The child also has no rights over the father.

Question 7 : If you say that the father is not the father by Islamic law, does that mean he cannot be the mahram of his own biological daughter?
Answer 7 : Yes, he cannot be her mahram.

Question 8 : A Muslim man and a Muslim (or Non-Muslim) woman decides to get married after having lived together, how should they go about it?
Answer 8 : They must separate immediately and the woman must wait for one menstrual cycle (to prove she is not pregnant), before they can enter into a marriage contract.

Question 9 : If I know someone that is in this situation, should I tell them about what I have learnt or is it none of my business?
Answer 9 : It is your Islamic duty to inform them, so they can rectify their situation, otherwise all the children from that relationship will be born outside an Islamic legal marriage.

Please do not discard this hand out. This is a very serious matter, so I urge you to understand it, discuss it further with a scholar if you are not clear, or do not agree. Inform those that may be in this situation and pray that you or your children should never be in such situations.

Don't Give Up!!

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
sitilondon: As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL:
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happens.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less from people but more from God

Rahsia Jadi Ayah Yang Berkesan

BEBERAPA kajian menunjukkan bahawa kehadiran ayah menyumbang terhadap kejayaan anak dalam setiap fasa kehidupan mereka. Kajian itu disimpulkan dalam Father Facts, Edisi Ketiga (1998), antaranya:
Bayi yang mempunyai ayah yang selalu bersama-sama anaknya di lapan minggu pertama, lebih berkemampuan menangani tekanan di alam persekolahan.

Anak yang rapat dengan ayahnya pada zaman kanak-kanak menjadi ejen penyelesai masalah yang baik apabila dewasa berbanding kanak-kanak yang tidak dipedulikan oleh ayahnya.

Apabila anak lelaki dan perempuan dididik dan dibelai oleh ayahnya serta sentiasa di sampingnya, sikap mereka apabila dewasa menjadi lebih berinisiatif dan mampu mengawal diri.Kanak-kanak yang mempunyai hubungan rapat dengan ayahnya ketika zaman tumbesarannya akan menjadi seorang remaja dan orang dewasa yang seimbang.

Anak yang tidak berbapa.

Kajian menunjukkan kekosongan daripada belaian kasih ayah mempunyai hubungan rapat dengan pelbagai permasalahan gejala sosial dan prestasi pembelajaran anak-anak.

Anak yang tidak tinggal dengan ayahnya menunjukkan gejala seperti di bawah:

Tiga kali lebih ramai yang mengandung tanpa nikah.

Lebih 50 peratus kemungkinan keciciran dalam pembelajaran, terbabit dengan gangsterism, penyalahgunaan dadah dan jenayah juvana.(Sumber: Pusat Kebapaan Kebangsaan)

rahsia menjadi ayah yang berkesan.

Ramai lelaki terbilang berjaya dan berbangga kerana menjadi seorang ayah cemerlang dan berkesan. Menurut kajian Dr Ken Canfield, pengasas dan juga Presiden Pusat Kebapaan Kebangsaan dalam penyelidikannya mengenai kebapaan ada enam rahsia menjadi ayah yang berkesan:

1) Bapa yang komited dan bertanggungjawab.

Jalankan tugas bapa dengan penuh dedikasi dan bertanggungjawab. Kenal pasti apakah tugas anda sebagai bapa dalam rumah tangga. Tunjukkan dan beritahu anak bahawa anda juga ada tugas dalam rumah tangga, disamping ibu mereka. Anda bukan hanya bertugas di luar. Sekali-sekala berikan mereka peluang untuk mengutarakan pandangan atau menegur anda jika terlupa atau terlalai melakukan tugas anda di rumah. Selalu memeriksa dan memantau apakah anda telah melaksanakan tugas di rumah. Bayangkan hadiah atau anugerah yang bakal didapati (sama ada di dunia atau akhirat) jika anda menjadi ayah cemerlang!


2) Kenali anak anda.
Ambil masa untuk mengenali secara khusus keunikan dan kualiti anak anda. Libatkan diri dalam dunia mereka, hadiah yang mereka sukai, ketakutan, kekecewaan malah impian dan cita-cita mereka. Cuba ingatkan semua nama kawan mereka serta pembawaan masing masing.Kenal pasti apa yang selalu mengecewakan, ditakuti, dibenci, paling memalukan serta yang boleh memberi motivasi dan perangsang kepada merekal Istiqamah (tetap pendirian) .

Apabila anak tahu apa yang bapa mahukan, mereka akan lebih berasa yakin serta boleh menyesuaikannya dengan kehendak anda. Jadi, istiqamah, tetap pendirian serta konsisten.

Ada enam tempat anda perlu konsisten iaitu hadkan perubahan mood (jangan terlalu mengikuti perasaan); sentiasa ada di rumah (selalu menghadirkan diri dalam acara kekeluargaan); kotakan apa yang dikata, bukan cakap tidak serupa bikin; sentiasa menjaga moral dan adab sopan; mempunyai atur cara kehidupan teratur serta ada hobi dan kegemaran baik yang boleh dilihat dan diikuti.

3) Melindungi, menyara dan mendoakan.
Sediakan suasana dan rasa selamat dalam rumah dengan memberikan respon yang positif setiap kali berlaku krisis dan permasalahan dalam rumah. Paling penting anda memberikan saraan yang cukup kepada mereka. Bapa tidak boleh menghalang berlakunya krisis, tetapi tindakan anda ketika berlaku krisis dan mengembalikan suasana normal, sebenarnya mengajar anak menangani krisis. Jangan lupa doakan untuk anak selepas solat.

4) Mencintai ibu mereka.
Zahirkan cinta anda kepada isteri anda di depan anak untuk menunjukkan satu hubungan suami isteri yang intim dan bermakna. Jadikan diri anda sebagai anggota dalam pasukan keibubapaan, bukan hanya ibu. Inilah langkah dan hadiah terbaik untuk anak. Dalam jangka panjang, anak mendapat manfaat yang sangat bernilai daripada hubungan ibu bapa yang hormat menghormati, bekerjasama dan berkasih sayang.


5) Menjadi pendengar yang baik.

Sedarlah bahawa anak mudah tersesat atau terpesong dalam arus dunia. Dengar apa yang mereka katakan dan apa yang tidak terluahkan. Tunjukkan kepada mereka bahwa mereka berhak untuk didengari dan diberi perhatian.


6)Jadikan diri anda pemimpin kerohanian.
Beri peluang anak anda mengenali Allah dengan menunjukkan keimanan dan amal harian anda yang selari dengan tuntutan agama. Bersolat bersama-sama dan jadi imam dalam solat lima waktu di rumah. Bawalah mereka bersama-sama menunaikan solat berjemaah di masjid. Selalu bercerita mengenai makhluk yang dicintai Allah di bumi dan langit.

Why I Did Not Have an MBA

Why I Did Not Have an MBA.

An American businessman was at the pier of a small coastal Sri Lankan village when a little boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna.

The American complimented the Sri Lankan on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Sri Lankareplied, "Only a little while, boss."
The American then asked, "Why didn't you stay out longer and catch more fish?"
The Lankan said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs.

The American then asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"
The Lankan fisherman said, "I sleep late a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife Mary, stroll into the village each evening where I drink and play cards with my friends. I have a full and busy life Boss."

The American scoffed, "I have a Harvard MBA and ! could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats. Eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Colombo, and eventually you will run your expanding enterprise."

The Lankan fisherman asked, "But Boss, how long will this all take?"
To which the American replied, "15-20 years."
"But what then, Boss?"
The American laughed and said, "That's the best part. When the time is 'Right', you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions."

"Millions, Boss? Then what?"
The American said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal! fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evening where you could drink and play your cards with your friends."

"You mean having a Harvard MBA, you have to go through all that to finally get to where I already am, Boss?"





If you can touch it and you can see it, it's REAL.
If you can touch it but you can't see it, it's TRANSPARENT.
If you can't touch it but you can see it, it's VIRTUAL.
If you can't touch it and you can't see it, it's GONE.

13 THINGS ABOUT YOU

� Someone in this world loves you, in some way.
� A smile from you, can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don?t like you.
� Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
� You mean the world to someone.
� Without you, someone may not be living.
� You are special and unique, in your own way.
� Someone that you don't know even exists, loves you.
� When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
� When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look, you most likely turned your back on the world.
� When you think have no chance at getting what you want, you probably won?t get it, but if you believe in yourself, you probably sooner or later will get it.
� Always remember complements you received, forget about the rude remarks.
� Always tell someone how you feel about them, you will feel much better when they know.
� If you have a friend, take the time to let them know that they are great. If you choose, send this letter to as many people as you care about, you'll brighten up someone?s day, and might change their perspective on life, for the better!

Tanbihul Ghafilin : Bab Berfikir

TANBIHUL GHAFILIN : BAB BERFIKIR

Siti Aisyah r.a. : mengapakah kamu jarang ziarah ke sini?
Ubaid bin Umair : kerana tuntunan: Zur ghibba taz dad hubba
(sambanglah jarang-jarang supaya bertambah cinta)

Bahwa siapa yang melihat bintang-bintang, dan memperhatikan kebesaran Tuhan yang menciptakannya, lalu – Ya Tuhan kami, Engkau tidak menjadikan semua itu sia-sia, maha suci Engkau Tuhan, maka hindarkanlah kami dari siksa neraka.
Maka dicatat baginya hasanat (kebaikan) sebanyak bintang di langit.

Aamir bin Qays :
1. Orang yang sangat gembira di akhirat – orang yang paling lama menderita di dunia.
2. Orang yang paling tertawa di akhirat – orang yang dahulunya di dunia paling banyak menangis kerana takut kepada Allah.
3. Orang yang paling ikhlas imannya di akhirat – orang yang banyak berfikir dan memperhatikan di dunia.

ALA < Abu Darda r.a. < Nabi s.a.w. :
“ … maka Sungguh untung orang yang dijadikan pembuka kebaikan dan penutup kejahatan, dan berfikir sejenak lebih baik bagiku daripada bangun semalam suntuk.”

Rasulullah s.a.w. :
“ Berfikir-fikir satu saat lebih afdhal dari ibadat satu tahun”

Abul Laits :
Jika seorang ingin mencapai mencapai fadhilah tafakkur, maka hendaknya berfikir dalam 5 macam:
1. Memikirkan ayat-ayat bukti-bukti kebesaran kekuasaan Allah.
2. Memikirkan nikmat pemberian Allah.
3. Memikir pahala yang dijanjikan Allah.
4. Memikirkan siksa hukuman Allah.
5. Memikirkan apa yang diridho’i dan apa yang dimurka Allah.


Hakiem :
Jangan memikirkan 3 macam:
1. Jangan memikirkan kemiskinan – sebab akan menyebabkan kerisauan dan menambah kerakusan.
2. Jangan memikirkan perbuatan orang yang telah menganiayamu – nescaya akan menambah kekerasan hatimu dan kedengkianmu, dan berlanjutan kemarahanmu.
3. Jangan memikirkan untuk tinggal tetap di dunia – sebab akan menggemarkan kamu dalam menghimpun dunia, dan menunda-nunda amal perbuatan, dan melalaikan akhirat.

Pokok dari warak ialah menjaga perasaan hatinya supaya tidak memikirkan sesuatu yang bukan kepentingannya.

Hakiem :
Sempurna ibadat itu ada di dalam kesungguhan niat,
Dan kebaikan amal itu di dalam tawadhuk,
Dan kesempurnaan keduanya ini ada di dalam zuhud (tidak rakus pada dunia),
Dan kesempurnaan semua itu dengan prihatin terhadap akhirat,
Dan sempurnanya memikirkan akhirat itu di dalam ingat kepada maut, dan banyak memikirkan dosa-dosa yang telah terjadi.

Akhlak para wali abdaal itu ada 10 :

TANBIHUL GHAFILIN : SESEORANG DIWAKTU PAGI

TANBIHUL GHAFILIN:
BAB BAGAIMANA SEHARUSNYA SESEORANG DIWAKTU PAGI

ALA < Mujahid < Abdullah bin Umar :
Hai Mujahid, jika kamu diwaktu pagi maka jangan merasa akan sampai petang, dan jika diwaktu petang jangan merasa akan sampai pagi,
Dan pergunakan kesempatan hidup sebelum mati,
Dan sehat sebelum sakit,
Sebab kamu tidak mengetahui apakah namamu kelak di hari kemudian.

Hakiem :
Seseorang di waktu pagi harus niat empat macam :
1. menunaikan kewajipan terhadap Allah
2. Meninggalkan larangan Allah
3. Menyelesaikan dengan orang yang ia ada hubungan dagang dan sebagainya
4. memperbaiki hubungan dengan lawan-lawannya.

Hakiem :
Tidak dapat ditanya tentang bangunnya, sehingga diperhatikan bagaimana tidurnya.
Seseorang tidak boleh tidur sehingga menyelesaikan 4 macam :
1. jangan tidur selama di atas bumi ada musuh, sehingga minta halalnya.
2. jangan tidur jika masih belum menyelesaikan kewajibannya terhadap Allah.
3. jangan tidur selama masih merasa berdosa dan belum taubat daripadanya.
4. jangan tidur sebelum menulis wasiat yang tepat.

3 Macam manusia diwaktu pagi:
1. sebagian mencari harta – maka ia tidak akan makan lebih dari rezkinya meskipun hartanya sangat banyak.
2. sebagian mencari dosa – maka pasti mendapat kehinaan.
3. sebgian mencari jalan – maka Allah akan memberinya rezki dan jalan (yang menuju keredhaan Allah).

Hakiem :
Siapa yang berada di waktu pagi, maka ia dilazimi oleh dua macam;
Iaitu rasa Aman dan Takut.
1. Harus merasa aman dengan jaminan Allah mengenai rezki.
2. Harus takut bila belum menyelesaikan kewajiban terhadap Tuhan.
Maka apabila mempunyai dua perasaan ini, maka Allah muliakan dengan 2 macam:
1. Diberi rasa qana’ah (penerimaan terhadap apa yang diberi oleh Allah)
2. Dapat merasakan manisnya taat kepada Allah.

Ibrahim bin Adam :
Siapa yang ada di waktu pagi, maka harus mensyukuri 4 macam :
(membaca)
1. Segala puji bagi Allah yang menerangkan hatiku dengan nur hidayat, dan menjadikan aku dari kaum mukminin, dan tidak menjadikan aku sesat.
2. Segala puji bagi Allah yang menjadikan aku dari ummat Muhammad s.a.w.
3. Segala puji bagi Allah yang tidak menjadikan rezkiku di tangan orang lain.
4. Segala puji bagi Allah yang telah menutupi kejelekan saya.

Tidak tiba suatu hari pada anak Adam melainkan Allah mewajibkan padanya 10 macam:
1. Berzikir kepada Allah ketika bangun tidur.
Firman : bertasbihlah dengan tahmid kepada Tuhanmu ketika kamu bangun.
Firman : hai orang-orang yang beriman, berzikirlah kepada Allah sebanyak-banyaknya, dan bertasbihlah tiap pagi dan petang.
2. Menutup aurat.
Firman : hai anak Adam, gunakanlah hiasanmu pada tiap masjid. (dan sekurang-kurangnya hiasan itu menutup aurat)
3. Menyempurnakan wudhuk.
Firman : hai orang yang beriman, jika kamu bangun untuk sembahyang maka basuhlah muka dan kedua tanganmu hingga dua siku, dan usaplah kepalamu dan basuhlah kakimu hingga dua mata kaki.
4. Menyelesaikan sembahyang tepat pada waktunya.
Firman : sesungguhnya sembahyang itu bagi orang-orang mukmin sebagai kewajiban yang tertentu dengan waktunya.
5. Merasa senang terhadap janji Allah dalam urusan rezeki.
Firman : tiada sesuatu yang melata di atas muka bumi melainkan rezkinya dijamin oleh Allah.
6. Qana’ah (penerimaan) dengan rezki pembahagian dari Allah.
Firman : Kami yang membagi di antara mereka urusan rezki penghidupan mereka.
7. Tawakkal beerserah kepada Allah.
Firman : kepada Allah harus kamu berserah diri jika kamu benar-benar orang mukmin.
8. Sabar menerima takdir dan hukuman Allah.
Firman : hai orang-orang beriman, bersabarlah kamu, dan latihlah dirimu bersabar.
9. Syukur terhadap nikmat.
Firman : bersyukurlah atas nikmat Allah jika kamu benar-benar menyembah pada-Nya. (dan nikmat pertama adalah kesihatan badan, yang terbesar adalah iman dan Islam, sedang nikmat-nikmat itu sangat banyak)
10. Makan yang halal.
Firman : makanlah kamu dari rezki yang aku berikan yang halal.

The 7 Habits Of Man & Woman

Men:
1. All men are extremely busy.

2. Although they are so busy, they still have time for women.

3. Although they have time for women, they don't really care for them.

4. Although they don't really care for them, they always have one around.

5. Although they always have one around them, they always try their luck with others.

6. Although they try their luck with others, they get really pissed
off if the women leaves them.

7. Although the women leaves them they still don't learn from their mistakes and still try their luck with others.


Women:
1. The most important thing for a woman is financial security.

2. Although this is so important, they still go out and buy expensive clothes.

3. Although they always buy expensive clothes, they never have
something to wear.

4. Although they never have something to wear, they always dress beautifully.

5. Although they always dress beautifully, their clothes are always
just "An old rag".

6. Although their clothes are always "just an old rag", they still
expect you to compliment them.

7. Although they expect you to compliment them, when you do, they don't believe you.

100 Weird Facts About The Human Body

The human body is an incredibly complex and intricate system, one that still baffles doctors and researchers on a regular basis despite thousands of years of medical knowledge. As a result, it shouldn’t be any surprise that even body parts and functions we deal with every day have bizarre or unexpected facts and explanations behind them. From sneezes to fingernail growth, here are 100 weird, wacky, and interesting facts about the human body.

The Brain
The human brain is the most complex and least understood part of the human anatomy. There may be a lot we don’t know, but here are a few interesting facts that we’ve got covered.

1. Nerve impulses to and from the brain travel as fast as 170 miles per hour. Ever wonder how you can react so fast to things around you or why that stubbed toe hurts right away? It’s due to the super-speedy movement of nerve impulses from your brain to the rest of your body and vice versa, bringing reactions at the speed of a high powered luxury sports car.

2. The brain operates on the same amount of power as 10-watt light bulb. The cartoon image of a light bulb over your head when a great thought occurs isn’t too far off the mark. Your brain generates as much energy as a small light bulb even when you’re sleeping.

3. The human brain cell can hold 5 times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica. Or any other encyclopedia for that matter. Scientists have yet to settle on a definitive amount, but the storage capacity of the brain in electronic terms is thought to be between 3 or even 1,000 terabytes. The National Archives of Britain, containing over 900 years of history, only takes up 70 terabytes, making your brain’s memory power pretty darn impressive.

4. Your brain uses 20% of the oxygen that enters your bloodstream. The brain only makes up about 2% of our body mass, yet consumes more oxygen than any other organ in the body, making it extremely susceptible to damage related to oxygen deprivation. So breathe deep to keep your brain happy and swimming in oxygenated cells.

5. The brain is much more active at night than during the day. Logically, you would think that all the moving around, complicated calculations and tasks and general interaction we do on a daily basis during our working hours would take a lot more brain power than, say, lying in bed. Turns out, the opposite is true. When you turn off your brain turns on. Scientists don’t yet know why this is but you can thank the hard work of your brain while you sleep for all those pleasant dreams.

6. Scientists say the higher your I.Q. the more you dream. While this may be true, don’t take it as a sign you’re mentally lacking if you can’t recall your dreams. Most of us don’t remember many of our dreams and the average length of most dreams is only 2-3 seconds–barely long enough to register.

7. Neurons continue to grow throughout human life. For years scientists and doctors thought that brain and neural tissue couldn’t grow or regenerate. While it doesn’t act in the same manner as tissues in manyother parts of the body, neurons can and do grow throughout your life, adding a whole new dimension to the study of the brain and the illnesses that affect it.

8. Information travels at different speeds within different types of neurons. Not all neurons are the same. There are a few different types within the body and transmission along these different kinds can be as slow as 0.5 meters/sec or as fast as 120 meters/sec.

9. The brain itself cannot feel pain. While the brain might be the pain center when you cut your finger or burn yourself, the brain itself does not have pain receptors and cannot feel pain. That doesn’t mean your head can’t hurt. The brain is surrounded by loads of tissues, nerves and blood vessels that are plenty receptive to pain and can give you a pounding headache.

10. 80% of the brain is water. Your brain isn’t the firm, gray mass you’ve seen on TV. Living brain tissue is a squishy, pink and jelly-like organ thanks to the loads of blood and high water content of the tissue. So the next time you’re feeling dehydrated get a drink to keep your brain hydrated.

Hair and Nails

While they’re not a living part of your body, most people spend a good amount of time caring for their hair and nails. The next time you’re heading in for a haircut or manicure, think of these facts.

11. Facial hair grows faster than any other hair on the body. If you’ve ever had a covering of stubble on your face as you’re clocking out at 5 o’clock you’re probably pretty familiar with this. In fact, if the average man never shaved his beard it would grow to over 30 feet during his lifetime, longer than a killer whale.

12. Every day the average person loses 60-100 strands of hair. Unless you’re already bald, chances are good that you’re shedding pretty heavily on a daily basis. Your hair loss will vary in accordance with the season, pregnancy, illness, diet and age.

13. Women’s hair is about half the diameter of men’s hair. While it might sound strange, it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise that men’s hair should be coarser than that of women. Hair diameter also varies on average between races, making hair plugs on some men look especially obvious.

14. One human hair can support 3.5 ounces. That’s about the weight of two full size candy bars, and with hundreds of thousands of hairs on the human head, makes the tale of Rapunzel much more plausible.

15. The fastest growing nail is on the middle finger. And the nail on the middle finger of your dominant hand will grow the fastest of all. Why is not entirely known, but nail growth is related to the length of the finger, with the longest fingers growing nails the fastest and shortest the slowest.

16. There are as many hairs per square inch on your body as a chimpanzee. Humans are not quite the naked apes that we’re made out to be. We have lots of hair, but on most of us it’s not obvious as a majority of the hairs are too fine or light to be seen.

17. Blondes have more hair. They’re said to have more fun, and they definitely have more hair. Hair color determines how dense the hair on your head is. The average human has 100,000 hair follicles, each of which is capable of producing 20 individual hairs during a person’s lifetime. Blondes average 146,000 follicles while people with black hair tend to have about 110,000 follicles. Those with brown hair fit the average with 100,000 follicles and redheads have the least dense hair, with about 86,000 follicles.

18. Fingernails grow nearly 4 times faster than toenails. If you notice that you’re trimming your fingernails much more frequently than your toenails you’re not just imagining it. The nails that get the most exposure and are used most frequently grow the fastest. On average, nails on both the toes and fingers grow about one-tenth of an inch each month.

19. The lifespan of a human hair is 3 to 7 years on average. While you quite a few hairs each day, your hairs actually have a pretty long life providing they aren’t subject to any trauma. Your hairs will likely get to seeseveral different haircuts, styles, and even possibly decades before they fall out on their own.

20. You must lose over 50% of your scalp hairs before it is apparent to anyone. You lose hundreds of hairs a day but you’ll have to lose a lot more before you or anyone else will notice. Half of the hairs on your pretty little head will have to disappear before your impending baldness will become obvious to all those around you.

21. Human hair is virtually indestructible. Aside from it’s flammability, human hair decays at such a slow rate that it is practically non-disintegrative. If you’ve ever wondered how your how clogs up your pipes so quick consider this: hair cannot be destroyed by cold, change of climate, water, or other natural forces and it is resistant to many kinds of acids and corrosive chemicals.

Internal Organs

Though we may not give them much thought unless they’re bothering us, our internal organs are what allow us to go on eating, breathing and walking around. Here are some things to consider the next time you hear your stomach growl.

22. The largest internal organ is the small intestine. Despite being called the smaller of the two intestines, your small intestine is actually four times as long as the average adult is tall. If it weren’t looped back and forth upon itself it wouldn’t fit inside the abdominal cavity.

23. The human heart creates enough pressure to squirt blood 30 feet. No wonder you can feel your heartbeat so easily. Pumping blood through your body quickly and efficiently takes quite a bit of pressure resulting in the strong contractions of the heart and the thick walls of the ventricles which push blood to the body.

24. The acid in your stomach is strong enough to dissolve razorblades. While you certainly shouldn’t test the fortitude of your stomach by eating a razorblade or any other metal object for that matter, the acids that digest the food you eat aren’t to be taken lightly. Hydrochloric acid, the type found in your stomach, is not only good at dissolving the pizza you had for dinner but can also eat through many types of metal.

25. The human body is estimated to have 60,000 miles of blood vessels. To put that in perspective, the distance around the earth is about 25,000 miles, making the distance your blood vessels could travel if laid end to end more than two times around the earth.

26. You get a new stomach lining every three to four days. The mucus-like cells lining the walls of the stomach would soon dissolve due to the strong digestive acids in your stomach if they weren’t constantly replaced. Those with ulcers know how painful it can be when stomach acid takes its toll on the lining of your stomach.

27. The surface area of a human lung is equal to a tennis court. In order to more efficiently oxygenate the blood, the lungs are filled with thousands of branching bronchi and tiny, grape-like alveoli. These are filled with microscopic capillaries which oxygen and carbon dioxide. The large amount of surface area makes it easier for this exchange to take place, and makes sure you stay properly oxygenated at all times.

28. Women’s hearts beat faster than men’s.The main reason for this is simply that on average women tend to be smaller than men and have less mass to pump blood to. But women’s and men’s hearts can actually act quite differently, especially when experiencing trauma like a heart attack, and many treatments that work for men must be adjusted or changed entirely to work for women.

29. Scientists have counted over 500 different liver functions. You may not think much about your liver except after a long night of drinking, but the liver is one of the body’s hardest working, largest and busiest organs. Some of the functions your liver performs are: production of bile, decomposition of red blood cells, plasma protein synthesis, and detoxification.

30. The aorta is nearly the diameter of a garden hose. The average adult heart is about the size of two fists, making the size of the aorta quite impressive. The artery needs to be so large as it is the main supplier of rich, oxygenated blood to the rest of the body.

31. Your left lung is smaller than your right lung to make room for your heart. For most people, if they were asked to draw a picture of what the lungs look like they would draw both looking roughly the same size. While the lungs are fairly similar in size, the human heart, though located fairly centrally, is tilted slightly to the left making it take up more room on that side of the body and crowding out that poor left lung.

32. You could remove a large part of your internal organs and survive. The human body may appear fragile but it’s possible to survive even with the removal of the stomach, the spleen, 75 percent of the liver, 80 percent of the intestines, one kidney, one lung, and virtually every organ from the pelvic and groin area. You might not feel too great, but the missing organs wouldn’t kill you.

33. The adrenal glands change size throughout life. The adrenal glands, lying right above the kidneys, are responsible for releasing stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. In the seventh month of a fetus’ development, the glands are roughly the same size as the kidneys. At birth, the glands have shrunk slightly and will continue to do so throughout life. In fact, by the time a person reaches old age, the glands are so small they can hardly be seen.

Bodily Functions

We may not always like to talk about them, but everyone has to deal with bodily functions on a daily basis. These are a few facts about the involuntary and sometimes unpleasant actions of our bodies.

34. Sneezes regularly exceed 100 mph. There’s a good reason why you can’t keep your eyes open when you sneeze–that sneeze is rocketing out of your body at close to 100 mph. This is, of course, a good reason to cover your mouth when you sneeze.

35. Coughs clock in at about 60 mph. Viruses and colds get spread around the office and the classroom quickly during cold and flu season. With 60 mph coughs spraying germs far and wide, it’s no wonder.

36. Women blink twice as many times as men do. That’s a lot of blinking every day. The average person, man or woman, blinks about 13 times a minute.

37. A full bladder is roughly the size of a soft ball. No wonder you have to run to bathroom when you feel the call of the wild. The average bladder holds about 400-800 cc of fluid but most people will feel the urge to go long before that at 250 to 300 cc.

38. Approximately 75% of human waste is made of water. While we might typically think that urine is the liquid part of human waste products, the truth is that what we consider solid waste is actually mostly water as well. You should be thankful that most waste is fairly water-filled, as drier harder stools are what cause constipation and are much harder and sometimes painful to pass.

39. Feet have 500,000 sweat glands and can produce more than a pint of sweat a day. With that kind of sweat-producing power it’s no wonder that your gym shoes have a stench that can peel paint. Additionally, men usually have much more active sweat glands than women.

40. During your lifetime, you will produce enough saliva to fill two swimming pools. Saliva plays an important part in beginning the digestive process and keeping the mouth lubricated, and your mouth produces quite a bit of it on a daily basis.

41. The average person expels flatulence 14 times each day. Even if you’d like to think you’re too dignified to pass gas, the reality is that almost everyone will at least a few times a day. Digestion causes the body to release gases which can be painful if trapped in the abdomen and not released.

42. Earwax production is necessary for good ear health. While many people find earwax to be disgusting, it’s actually a very important part of your ear’s defense system. It protects the delicate inner ear from bacteria, fungus, dirt and even insects. It also cleans and lubricates the ear canal.

Sex and Reproduction

As taboo as it may be in some places, sex is an important part of human life as a facet of relationships and the means to reproduce. Here are a few things you might not have known.

43. On any given day, sexual intercourse takes place 120 million times on earth. Humans are a quickly proliferating species, and with about 4% of the world’s population having sex on any given day, it’s no wonder that birth rates continue to increase in many places all over the world.

44. The largest cell in the human body is the female egg and the smallest is the male sperm. While you can’t see skin cells or muscle cells, the ovum is typically large enough to be seen with the naked eye with a diameter of about a millimeter. The sperm cell, on the other hand, is tiny, consisting of little more than nucleus.

45. The three things pregnant women dream most of during their first trimester are frogs, worms and potted plants. Pregnancy hormones can cause mood swings, cravings and many other unexpected changes. Oddly enough, hormones can often affect the types of dreams women have and their vividness. The most common are these three types, but many women also dream of water, giving birth or even have violent or sexually charged dreams.

46. Your teeth start growing 6 months before you are born. While few babies are born with teeth in place, the teeth that will eventually push through the gums of young children are formed long before the child even leaves the womb. At 9 to 12 weeks the fetus starts to form the teeth buds that will turn into baby teeth.

47. Babies are always born with blue eyes. The color of your eyes depends on the genes you get from your parents, but at birth most babies appear to have blue eyes. The reason behind this is the pigment melanin. The melanin in a newborn’s eyes often needs time after birth to be fully deposited or to be darkened by exposure to ultraviolet light, later revealing the baby’s true eye color.

48. Babies are, pound for pound, stronger than an ox. While a baby certainly couldn’t pull a covered wagon at its present size, if the child were the size of an oxen it just might very well be able to. Babies have especially strong and powerful legs for such tiny creatures, so watch out for those kicks.

49. One out of every 2,000 newborn infants has a tooth when they are born. Nursing mothers may cringe at this fact. Sometimes the tooth is a regular baby tooth that has already erupted and sometimes it is an extra tooth that will fall out before the other set of choppers comes in.

50. A fetus acquires fingerprints at the age of three months. When only a small fraction of the way through its development, a fetus will have already developed one of the most unique human traits: fingerprints. At only 6-13 weeks of development, the whorls of what will be fingerprints have already developed. Oddly enough, those fingerprints will not change throughout the person’s life and will be one of the last things to disappear after death.

51. Every human spent about half an hour as a single cell. All life has to begin somewhere, and even the largest humans spent a short part of their lives as a single celled organism when sperm and egg cells first combine. Shortly afterward, the cells begin rapidly dividing and begin forming the components of a tiny embryo.

52. Most men have erections every hour to hour and a half during sleep. Most people’s bodies and minds are much more active when they’re sleeping than they think. The combination of blood circulation and testosterone production can cause erections during sleep and they’re often a normal and necessary part of REM sleep.

Senses

The primary means by which we interact with the world around us is through our senses. Here are some interesting facts about these five sensory abilities.

53. After eating too much, your hearing is less sharp. If you’re heading to a concert or a musical after a big meal you may be doing yourself a disservice. Try eating a smaller meal if you need to keep your hearing pitch perfect.

54. About one third of the human race has 20-20 vision. Glasses and contact wearers are hardly alone in a world where two thirds of the population have less than perfect vision. The amount of people with perfect vision decreases further as they age.

55. If saliva cannot dissolve something, you cannot taste it. In order for foods, or anything else, to have a taste, chemicals from the substance must be dissolved by saliva. If you don’t believe it, try drying off your tongue before tasting something.

56. Women are born better smellers than men and remain better smellers over life. Studies have shown that women are more able to correctly pinpoint just what a smell is. Women were better able to identify citrus, vanilla, cinnamon and coffee smells. While women are overall better smellers, there is an unfortunate 2% of the population with no sense of smell at all.

57. Your nose can remember 50,000 different scents. While a bloodhound’s nose may be a million times more sensitive than a human’s, that doesn’t mean that the human sense of smell is useless. Humans can identify a wide variety of scents and many are strongly tied to memories.

58. Even small noises cause the pupils of the eyes to dilate. It is believed that this is why surgeons, watchmakers and others who perform delicate manual operations are so bothered by uninvited noise. The sound causes their pupils to change focus and blur their vision, making it harder to do their job well.

59. Everyone has a unique smell, except for identical twins. Newborns are able to recognize the smell of their mothers and many of us can pinpoint the smell of our significant others and those we are close to. Part of that smell is determined by genetics, but it’s also largely do to environment, diet and personal hygiene products that create a unique chemistry for each person.

Aging and Death

From the very young to the very old, aging is a necessary and unavoidable part of life. Learn about the process with these interesting, if somewhat strange facts.

60. The ashes of a cremated person average about 9 pounds. A big part of what gives the human body weight is the water trapped in our cells. Once cremated, that water and a majority of our tissues are destroyed, leaving little behind.

61. Nails and hair do not continue to grow after we die. They do appear longer when we die, however, as the skin dehydrates and pulls back from the nail beds and scalp.

62. By the age of 60, most people will have lost about half their taste buds. Perhaps you shouldn’t trust your grandma’s cooking as much as you do. Older individuals tend to lose their ability to taste, and many find that they need much more intense flavoring in order to be able to fully appreciate a dish.

63. Your eyes are always the same size from birth but your nose and ears never stop growing. When babies look up at you with those big eyes, they’re the same size that they’ll be carrying around in their bodies for the rest of their lives. Their ears and nose, however, will grow throughout their lives and research has shown that growth peaks in seven year cycles.

64. By 60 years of age, 60-percent of men and 40-percent of women will snore. If you’ve ever been kept awake by a snoring loved one you know the sound can be deafening. Normal snores average around 60 decibels, the noise level of normal speech, intense snores can reach more than 80 decibels, the approximate level caused by a jackhammer breaking up concrete.

65. A baby’s head is one-quarter of it’s total length, but by age 25 will only be one-eighth of its total length. As it turns out, our adorably oversized baby heads won’t change size as drastically as the rest of our body. The legs and torso will lengthen, but the head won’t get much longer.

Disease and Injury

Most of us will get injured or sick at some point in our lives. Here are some facts on how the human body reacts to the stresses and dangers from the outside world.

66. Monday is the day of the week when the risk of heart attack is greatest. Yet another reason to loathe Mondays! A ten year study in Scotland found that 20% more people die of heart attacks on Mondays than any other day of the week. Researchers theorize that it’s a combination of too much fun over the weekend with the stress of going back to work that causes the increase.

67. Humans can make do longer without food than sleep. While you might feel better prepared to stay up all night partying than to give up eating, that feeling will be relatively short lived. Provided there is water, the average human could survive a month to two months without food depending on their body fat and other factors. Sleep deprived people, however, start experiencing radical personality and psychological changes after only a few sleepless days. The longest recorded time anyone has ever gone without sleep is 11 days, at the end of which the experimenter was awake, but stumbled over words, hallucinated and frequently forgot what he was doing.

68. A simple, moderately severe sunburn damages the blood vessels extensively. How extensively? Studies have shown that it can take four to fifteen months for them to return to their normal condition. Consider that the next time you’re feeling too lazy to apply sunscreen before heading outside.

69. Over 90% of diseases are caused or complicated by stress. That high stress job you have could be doing more than just wearing you down each day. It could also be increasing your chances of having a variety of serious medical conditions like depression, high blood pressure and heart disease.

70. A human head remains conscious for about 15 to 20 seconds after it is been decapitated. While it might be gross to think about, the blood in the head may be enough to keep someone alive and conscious for a few seconds after the head has been separated from the body, though reports as to the accuracy of this are widely varying.

Muscles and Bones

Muscles and Bones provide the framework for our bodies and allow us to jump, run or just lie on the couch. Here are a few facts to ponder the next time you’re lying around.

71. It takes 17 muscles to smile and 43 to frown. Unless you’re trying to give your face a bit of a workout, smiling is a much easier option for most of us. Anyone who’s ever scowled, squinted or frowned for a long period of time knows how it tires out the face which doesn’t do a thing to improve your mood.

72. Babies are born with 300 bones, but by adulthood the number is reduced to 206. The reason for this is that many of the bones of children are composed of smaller component bones that are not yet fused like those in the skull. This makes it easier for the baby to pass through the birth canal. The bones harden and fuse as the children grow.

73. We are about 1 cm taller in the morning than in the evening. The cartilage between our bones gets compressed by standing, sitting and other daily activities as the day goes on, making us just a little shorter at the end of the day than at the beginning.

74. The strongest muscle in the human body is the tongue. While you may not be able to bench press much with your tongue, it is in fact the strongest muscle in your body in proportion to its size. If you think about it, every time you eat, swallow or talk you use your tongue, ensuring it gets quite a workout throughout the day.
75. The hardest bone in the human body is the jawbone. The next time someone suggests you take it on the chin, you might be well advised to take their advice as the jawbone is one of the most durable and hard to break bones in the body.

76. You use 200 muscles to take one step. Depending on how you divide up muscle groups, just to take a single step you use somewhere in the neighborhood of 200 muscles. That’s a lot of work for the muscles considering most of us take about 10,000 steps a day.

77. The tooth is the only part of the human body that can’t repair itself. If you’ve ever chipped a tooth you know just how sadly true this one is. The outer layer of the tooth is enamel which is not a living tissue. Since it’s not alive, it can’t repair itself, leaving your dentist to do the work instead.

78. It takes twice as long to lose new muscle if you stop working out than it did to gain it. Lazy people out there shouldn’t use this as motivation to not work out, however. It’s relatively easy to build new muscle tissue and get your muscles in shape, so if anything, this fact should be motivation to get off the couch and get moving.

79. Bone is stronger than some steel. This doesn’t mean your bones can’t break of course, as they are much less dense than steel. Bone has been found to have a tensile strength of 20,000 psi while steel is much higher at 70,000 psi. Steel is much heavier than bone, however, and pound for pound bone is the stronger material.

80. The feet account for one quarter of all the human body’s bones. You may not give your feet much thought but they are home to more bones than any other part of your body. How many? Of the two hundred or so bones in the body, the feet contain a whopping 52 of them.

Microscopic Level

Much of what takes place in our bodies happens at a level that we simply can’t see with the naked eye. These facts will show you that sometimes that might be for the best.

81. About 32 million bacteria call every inch of your skin home. Germaphobes don’t need to worry however, as a majority of these are entirely harmless and some are even helpful in maintaining a healthy body.

82. Humans shed and regrow outer skin cells about every 27 days. Skin protects your delicate internal organs from the elements and as such, dries and flakes off completely about once a month so that it can maintain its strength. Chances are that last month’s skin is still hanging around your house in the form of the dust on your bookshelf or under the couch.

83. Three hundred million cells die in the human body every minute. While that sounds like a lot, it’s really just a small fraction of the cells that are in the human body. Estimates have placed the total number of cells in the body at 10-50 trillion so you can afford to lose a few hundred million without a hitch.

84. Humans shed about 600,000 particles of skin every hour. You may not think much about losing skin if yours isn’t dry or flaky or peeling from a sunburn, but your skin is constantly renewing itself and shedding dead cells.

85. Every day an adult body produces 300 billion new cells. Your body not only needs energy to keep your organs up and running but also to constantly repair and build new cells to form the building blocks of your body itself.

86. Every tongue print is unique. If you’re planning on committing a crime, don’t think you’ll get away with leaving a tongue print behind. Each tongue is different and yours could be unique enough to finger you as the culprit.

87. Your body has enough iron in it to make a nail 3 inches long. Anyone who has ever tasted blood knows that it has a slightly metallic taste. This is due to the high levels of iron in the blood. If you were to take all of this iron out of the body, you’d have enough to make a small nail and very severe anemia.

88. The most common blood type in the world is Type O. Blood banks find it valuable as it can be given to those with both type A and B blood. The rarest blood type, A-H or Bombay blood due to the location of its discovery, has been found in less than hundred people since it was discovered.

89. Human lips have a reddish color because of the great concentration of tiny capillaries just below the skin. The blood in these capillaries is normally highly oxygenated and therefore quite red. This explains why the lips appear pale when a person is anemic or has lost a great deal of blood. It also explains why the lips turn blue in very cold weather. Cold causes the capillaries to constrict, and the blood loses oxygen and changes to a darker color.

Miscellaneous

Here are a few things you might not have known about all different parts of your anatomy.

90. The colder the room you sleep in, the better the chances are that you’ll have a bad dream. It isn’t entirely clear to scientists why this is the case, but if you are opposed to having nightmares you might want to keep yourself a little toastier at night.

91. Tears and mucus contain an enzyme (lysozyme) that breaks down the cell wall of many bacteria. This is to your advantage, as the mucus that lines your nose and throat, as well as the tears that wet your eyes are helping to prevent bacteria from infecting those areas and making you sick.

92. Your body gives off enough heat in 30 minutes to bring half a gallon of water to a boil. If you’ve seen the Matrix you are aware of the energy potentially generated by the human body. Our bodies expend a large amount of calories keeping us at a steady 98.6 degrees, enough to boil water or even cook pasta.

93. Your ears secrete more earwax when you are afraid than when you aren’t. The chemicals and hormones released when you are afraid could be having unseen effects on your body in the form of earwax. Studies have suggested that fear causes the ears to produce more of the sticky substance, though the reasons are not yet clear.

94. It is not possible to tickle yourself. Even the most ticklish among us do not have the ability to tickle ourselves. The reason behind this is that your brain predicts the tickle from information it already has, like how your fingers are moving. Because it knows and can feel where the tickle is coming from, your brain doesn’t respond in the same way as it would if someone else was doing the tickling.

95. The width of your armspan stretched out is the length of your whole body. While not exact down to the last millimeter, your armspan is a pretty good estimator of your height.

96. Humans are the only animals to produce emotional tears. In the animal world, humans are the biggest crybabies, being the only animals who cry because they’ve had a bad day, lost a loved one, or just don’t feel good.

97. Right-handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people do. This doesn’t have a genetic basis, but is largely due to the fact that a majority of the machines and tools we use on a daily basis are designed for those who are right handed, making them somewhat dangerous for lefties to use and resulting in thousands of accidents and deaths each year.

98. Women burn fat more slowly than men, by a rate of about 50 calories a day. Most men have a much easier time burning fat than women. Women, because of their reproductive role, generally require a higher basic body fat proportion than men, and as a result their bodies don’t get rid of excess fat at the same rate as men.

99. Koalas and primates are the only animals with unique fingerprints. Humans, apes and koalas are unique in the animal kingdom due to the tiny prints on the fingers of their hands. Studies on primates have suggested that even cloned individuals have unique fingerprints.

100. The indentation in the middle of the area between the nose and the upper lip has a name. It is called the philtrum. Scientists have yet to figure out what purpose this indentation serves, though the ancient Greeks thought it to be one of the most erogenous places on the body.