25 Success Principles : 1st

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The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You are to Where You Want to be
by Jack Canfield

1. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life

The only person responsible for the quality of the life you live is YOU.

It is time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven't
created the life and results you want, for it is YOU who creates the quality of
the life you lead and the results you produce.
You - no one else!

Taking 100% responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything
that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all
your experience.

Give Up All Your Excuses.
99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.

You always have had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the
desired result.
Choose to exercise that power!

You are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn't happen to you.

E + R = O
( Event + Response = Outcome )

It is not the external conditions and circumstances that stop you - it is YOU!

If You Don't Like Your Outcomes, Change Your Responses

Everything You Experience Today Is the Result of Choices You Have Made
in the Past

You only have control over three things in your life :
1 the thoughts you think
2 the images you visualize
3 the actions you take ( your behaviour )

If You Keep on Doing What You've Always Done, You'll Keep on Getting
What You've Always Got

insanity - continuing the same behaviour and expecting a different result

Give Up Blaming

All blame is waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another,
and regardless of how much you blame him, It Will Not Change You.

Give Up Complaining
…people only complain about things they can do something about
and they simply don't do it because they involve risks…

( fear nothing, risks everything - Redline )

People Always Complaining to the Wrong Person
they complain to the people who can't do anything about their complaint…

Learn to replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve
your desired outcomes.

If you find yourself in a situation you don't like, either work to make it better or leave.
Do something to change it or get the heck out.

Don't Just Sit There ( and complain ), Do Something!
- age old adage

You Either Create or Allow Everything That Happens to You

Often, we simply allow things to happen to us by our Inaction and our Unwillingness to
do what is necessary to create or maintain what we want…

Yellow Alerts
Be aware that nothing ever just '"happens" to you.
There are external and internal, and whole language of signs that informs us
Do not pretend you don't see or don't know… take the risks!

Successful people face facts squarely.

Respond quickly and decisively to signals and events as they occur.
Replace self-talk with something like :
"I feel great"
"I am in control"
"I can make things happen"

You are the one who is creating your life the way it is.
The life you are currently live is the result of all your past thoughts and actions.
Every action is under your control.

Ask for feedback.
"Is what I'm doing working? Could I be doing it better? Is there something more I should
be doing that I am not? Is there something I am doing that I should stop doing? How do
you see me limiting myself?"

Don't be afraid to ask.
The truth is the truth. You are better off knowing the truth than not knowing it. Once you
know, you can do something about it.

Slow down and pay attention.
Ask yourself :
How am I creating or allowing this to happen?
What am I doing that's working that I need to be doing more of?
What am I doing that's not working? What do I need to be doing less of?
What am I not doing that I need to try on to see if it works?

The formula is simple :
do more of what is working
do less of what isn't
try on new behaviors to see if they produce better results

Pay Attention … Your Results Don't Lie
The only thing that will change your results is to change your behavior.
Don't kid yourself. Be ruthlessly honest with yourself. Take your own inventory.