Somethin That You Have To Think About

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways,but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgement, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space.. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

I've Learned ....

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down may be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.

I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get further in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and
standing up for what you believe.

I've learned that no matter how fast or how far you go, you can't outrun God.

I've learned that no matter how far away I've been, He'll always welcome me back.

I've learned that love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.

I've learned that even if you do the right thing for the wrong reason, it's still the wrong thing to do."

- Author unknown -

How To Improve Your Memory & Exercise Your Brain

Everyone can take steps to improve their memory, and with time and practice most people can gain the ability to memorize seemingly impossible amounts of information. Whether you want to win the World Memory Championships, ace your history test, or simply remember where you put your keys, this article can get you started. Scientists believe that exercising your brain can create a ‘cognitive reserve’ that will help you stay sharp as you age.

1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve.

Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements — it’s hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.

2. Keep your brain active.

The brain is not a muscle, but regularly “exercising” the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills—especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument—and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.

3. Exercise daily.

Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental “pictures.”

4. Reduce stress.

Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.

5. Eat well and eat right.

There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine). A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants—broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example—and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.

6. Take better pictures.

Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don’t really learn people’s names at first because we aren’t really concentrating on remembering them. You’ll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you’ll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you’re able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.

7. Give yourself time to form a memory.

Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you’re trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.

8. Create vivid, memorable images.

You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book – that’s too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It’s your mind – make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.

9. Repeat things you need to learn.

The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you’ll remember it, right? It’s a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker’s name or your best friend’s birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.

10. Group things you need to remember.

Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you’ll find it easier to remember all four.

11. Organize your life.

Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn’t improve your memory, you’ll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won’t have to search for your keys anymore).

12. Try meditation.

Research now suggests that people who regularly practice “mindfulness” meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.

13. Sleep well.

The amount of sleep we get affects the brain’s ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night’s sleep – a minimum of seven hours a night – may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.

14. Build your memorization arsenal.

Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.

15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes.

Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you’ve done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.

Himpunan Petua Melayu

Hilangkan karat pada gigi
Cara untuk menghilangkan karat dari gigi adalah dengan dengan mengambil biji asam jawa, kemudian gorengkan tanpa minyak lalu ditumbuk hingga halus. ambil debunya dan gosokkan pada gigi dengan kain atau berus gigi.Lakukan setiaphari dan InsyaAllah anda akan dapat melihat kesannya.

Legakan Sakit kepala
Sakit kepala boleh dihilangkan dengan cara mengambil daun lemuni hijau lebih kurang sekilogram dan dimasukkan kedalam sarung bantal. Kemudian tidurlah diatasnya selama dua tiga hari. InsyaAllah sakit kepala anda akan berkurangan dan anda akan berasa segar.

Kurangkan kadar kolestrol
Perah sedikit lemon dan campurkan dengan secamca teh minyak zaitun. Amalkan meminumnya dua atau tiga hari sekali atau setiap kali mengmbil makanan berkolestrol tinggi. InsyaAllah kesannya akan dapat dirasai dalam masa seminggu.Ia juga dapat menghilangkan pembentukan selulit.

Kulit Berkedut
Ambil sebatang lobak merah , bersihkan dan parut, setelah itu campurkan sebiji kuning telur dan secamca besar tepung jagung. Bahan ini dikacau hingg sebati , setelah itu bolehlah dilumurkan pada kulit muka. Lakukan sekali sehari pada waktu malam. Cucilah muka ketika hendak tidur dengan air suam. Amalkan Selalu insyaallah berkesan.

Sakit Gigi
Ambil sebatang serai dan titik bahagian hujungnya.Salai seketika diatas api dan sewaktu masih suam , gigit pada tempat sakit. InsyaAllah sakit akan berkurangan.

Senggugut
Ambil sembilan biji pinang tua , dibakar hingga menjadi arang dan ditumbuk halus. Campurkan dengan secawan air suam dan minum. Amalkan petua ini sembilan hari berturut-turut dari hati mula kedatangan haid. InsyaAllah mujarab.

Petua Menghentikan Pendarahan
Ambil tembakau rokok dan tekapkan pada bahagian yang berdarah. Waktu menekapkannya pada luka hindarkan dari terkena air. Hasilnya , insyaAllah darah akan berhenti mengalir dan luka tidak lagi terasa sakit.

Turunkan suhu Badan Bayi
Gunakan 3 jari tangan anda (ibu jari , telunjuk dan jari hantu), baca bismillah dan selawat 3 kali. Masukkan 3 jari tersebut kedalam beras. Genggam dan lepaskan beras dari genggaman kedalam secawan air masak. Biarkan beras yang melekat pada ketiga jari itu, dan makan beras tersebut. Gunakan air yang bercampur dengan beras tadi untuk disapukan kebadan bayi. InsyaAllah suhu badanbayi akan berkurangan.

Hilangkan Kesan Teh
Ambil saja sedikit ubat gigi dan sapu pada kole atau gelas yang ada kesan berkarat dari teh. Ambil sehelai kain bersih dan gosokkan padanya. InsyaAllah kesan teh akan hilang dengan mudah dan gelas atau kole anda tidak akan tercalar.

Elak ikan melekat ketika digoreng
Seringkah anda menghadapi masalah ketika mengoreng ikan? Anda hanya perlu memasukkan beberapa keping asam keping bersama ikan yang sedang digoreng. Selamat mencuba.

Menjadikan wajah berseri
Kebiasaannya setiap orang mahukan wajah licin terutamanya kaum wanita. Anda tidak perlukan modal yg besar. Basuh beras dan tuskan airnya. Goreng tanpa minyak hingga hangus kemudian tumbuk halus seperti serbuk. Simpan di dalam botol. Apabila hendak digunakan ambil sedikit dan campurkan dengan air limau nipis. Gosok pada muka dan biarkan kering. Setelah itu cuci muka hingga bersih.

Merawat bengkak usus
Penyakit bengkak usus jika dibiarkan amat merbahaya. Jika anda ingin merawatnya, potong sebuku kunyit hidup (dimesin), sedikit garam, sedikit gula merah dan sedikit perahan air limau nipis. Campurkan semua bahan didalam segelas air suam dan diminum. Amalkanlah.

Mengilatkan periuk
Untuk mengilatkan periuk anda, ambil sedikit sabun mandi dan lekatkan pada berus periuk. Selepas itu berus periuk tersebut dengan kuat. Akhir sekali bilas dengan air. Pasti periuk kesayangan anda berkilauan.

Menghilangkan jerawat batu
Kulit yang berjerawat batu mungkin akan merosakkan kecantikan muka terutama bagi kaum wanita. Untuk menghilangkannya, ambil beras, tumbuk hingga halus dan campurkan sedikit air. Gunakan pada waktu hendak tidur tiga kali seminggu. Insyaallah jerawat batu anda akan hilang.

Rawatan jika terkena minyak atau air panas
Ambil sedikit kicap dan garam halus. Kemudian sapukan kedua-dua bahan tadi di tempat yg terkena minyak atau air panas. Sebelum itu berselawatlah keatas Nabi S.A.W sebanyak 3 kali.

Mengelakkan gula dimasuki semut
Masukkan kulit kayu manis ke dalam bekas simpanan gula. Insyaallah semut akan lari.

Menghilangkan demam campak
Caranya sebelum merebak keseluruh badan, pesakit itu hendaklah diberi minum air kelapa dan kemudian mandikan dengan air kelapa itu (boleh dicampur dengan air).

Karipap lebih rangup
Ramai suri rumah merungut apabila kulit karipap yang mereka buat liat dan keras. Cara mengatasi masalah ini mudah iaitu sebelum mengadun marjerinbersama tepung gandum, panaskan marjerin yang telah disukat bersama 1/2 cawan minyak masak. Biarkan mendidih. Tuangkan minyak tadi kedalam adunan tepung, kemudian ulilah seperti biasa. Dengan ini karipap anda akan rangup dan enak.

Melegakan selsema bayi
Ambil sebiji kunyit, patahkan, potong atau tumbuk. Kemudian sapukan pada batang hidung bayi anda. Insyaallah jika selalu diamalkan, hidung bayi anda tidak akan tersumbat dan dia akan tidur nyenyak.

Melembutkan daging
Caranya ialah rebuskan daging yang telah siap dicuci dengan satu camca serbuk soda bikarbonat. Setelah daging lembut bolehlah dicuci dengan air bersih sebelum digunakan untuk memasak sup atau rendang. Juga boleh direbus bersama daun nangka jika tiada serbuk soda.

Menghilangkan parut luka
Bekas parut yang berwarna hitam selalu mengganggu penampilan kita. Usahlah bimbang, ada cara untuk menghilangkannya. Ambil sebiji ubi kentang dan kukus dan apabila sudah masak, lumatkan hingga halus dan tempelkan pada parut tersebut. Biarkan hingga kering dan bekas parut itu akan hilang dengan sendirinya. Amalkan sehingga kesan parut hilang.

Memudahkan mengopek kerang
Memakan makanan memanglah suatu yang melazatkan tetapi untuk mengatasi cara pemakanannya adalah suatu yang membosankan dan menyusahkan terutamanya kerang. Suri rumah tentu mengeluh apabila isi rumah ingin memakan atau meratah makanan ini. Di sini ada petua untuk memudahkan mengopek kerang. Caranya ialah apabila anda merebus kerang, campurkan sesudu minyak masak kedalam air rebusan. mudah-mudahan kerang itu akan terbuka sedikit dan memudahkan anda mengopeknya.

Merawat penyakit buasir
Kebanyakkan kaum lelaki mengalami masalah ini. Cara untuk mengatasinya ialah ambil sebiji kelapa gading yang kecil berwarna kuning, bakar atau panaskan hujungnya. Kemudian tekapkan pada bahagian yang sakit. Lakukan berulang kali sehingga berasa selesa.

Mengatasi bayi demam selepas disuntik
Bagi ibu yang mempunyai anak dan sering demam setiap kali disuntik, bolehlah mencuba petua ini. Selepas anak anda disuntik, sapukan bawang kecil yang dipotong pada tempat yang disuntik. Seeloknya bawang tersebut hendaklah dibawa setiap kali anda keklinik. Insyaallah dengan cara ini dapat mengatasi demam anak.

Menghilangkan gatal getah keladi
Sebelum menyiang keladi pastikan tangan tidak basah. Lumurkan beberapa keping asam keping (asam gelugur) pada tangan. Insyaallah tangan tidak gatal lagi. Seperkara lagi semasa menyiang keladi iaitu semasa menanggalkan kulit nipis dibahagian luarnya, janganlah batang keladi direndam dengan air. Setelah siap kesemuanya, barulah dibasuh bersih dan masukkan bersama beberapa keping asam gelugur jika masih terdapat kegatalan.

Mempercepatkan pembekuan agar-agar
Puding sejuk dan agar-agar kadang-kadang lambat membeku jika terlebih airnya. Untuk mempercepatkan pembekuan, loyangperlu disejukkan didalam peti sejuk tingkat teratas. Apabila cukup sejuk, isikan agar-agar didalamnya. Pasti hasilnya amat memuaskan.

Mengelak kain batik daripada luntur
Untuk mengelakkan kain batik daripada luntur warnanya dan mudah pudar, eloklah digunakan daun betik agar warna kain tetap cantik dan nampak baru. Caranya ialah ambil beberapa helai daun betik dan rebus bersama air. Ketika air rebusan masih panas, masukkan kain batik dan rendam semalaman. Setelah itu bolehlah dicuci seperti biasa. Insyaallah, kain itu tidak akan luntur lagi.

Memudahkan bayi buang air besar
Jika bayi anda sukar buang air besar, cubalah ambil sedikit asam jawa dan gaul atau ramas dengan sedikit air biarkan ia agak pekat kemudian sapulah pada bahagian ubun-ubun bayi anda juga pada pusatnya. Cubalah petua ini dan amalkan setiap hari. Insyaallah bayi anda tiada masalah sebu perut.

Cara merawat penyakit panau
Jika anda ada panau, tentu memalukan. Apatah lagi jika panau ketara pada muka. Cuba petua ini. Ambil sepotong halia, tumbuk lumat kemudian tempelkan pada tempat berpanau. Insyaallah anda akan perolehi hasilnya.

Menghilangkan bau nasi hangit
Untuk menghilangkan bau nasi hangit, caranya ialah ambil beberapa helai daun limau purut, carik-carikkan dan masukkan di dalam nasi hangit - tutup semula tudung periuk. Pasti nasi berbau harum.

Merawat cirit-birit dan menghilangkannya
Bagi mereka yang mengalami cirit-birit, bolehlah mengamalkan makan pucuk jambu batu. Caranya: rendam pucuk jambu batu itu di dalam air panas bersama sedikit garam untuk membersih kekotoran pada pucuk jambu itu. Setelah agak layu, bolehlah terus dimakan. Insyaallah perut tidak lagi sakit dan usus-usus berfungsi dengan baik semula.

Menghentikan hidung berdarah
Cuaca terlalu panas boleh mendatangkan kemudharatan. Antaranya, berlaku pendarahan melalui hidung. Untuk menghentikan segera pendarahan, ambil sehelai daun sirih, gulung hingga kecil dan sumbatkan ke dalam hidung yg berdarah. Insyaallah darah akan cepat berhenti.

Kacang hijau cepat empuk
Apabila kita merebus kacang hijau, masukkan sedikit minyak ke dalam periuk dan letakkan atas api. Banyakny aminyak masak terletak pada banyaknya kacang hijau yang di rebus. Kalau sekilo kacang, masukkan setengah camca minyak. Insyaallah akan cepatlah empuk, lepas tu bolehlah masukkan santan dan gula seandainya membuat bubur kacang.

Cara membersih botol susu hingga berkilat
Menghadapi masalah mencuci botol susu terutamanya yang berbentuk unik? Berus yang tercipta khusus pun tidak mampu mencuci hingga ke celahnya. Cubalah petua ini. Masukkan sedikit beras di dalam botol susu, di campur dengan air panas atau sejuk. Goncang-goncang botol susu itu. Hasilnya bukan saja botol bersih, puting susu juga turut hilang dakinya. Petua ini boleh juga di cuba untuk membersihkan botol air plastik yang lain.

THREE Powerful little Words

The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. These are just three little BUT VERY POWERFUL words !!!

I'll Be There
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You
Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

I Respect You
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

Maybe You're Right
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

Please Forgive Me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

Let Me Help
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I Understand You
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship. This applies to any relationship.

Go For It
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

I Love You
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."

WHY? Life's Unanswered Questions

Why does the sun lighten our hair, but darken our skin?

Why can't women put on mascara with their mouth closed?

Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle?

Why don't you ever see the headline "Psychic Wins Lottery"?



Why is "abbreviated" such a long word?

Why is a boxing ring square?

Why is it called lipstick if you can still move your lips?

Why is it that doctors call what they do "practice"?

Why is it that rain drops but snow falls?




Why is it that when you're driving and looking for an address, you turn down the volume on the radio?

Why is lemon juice made with artificial flavor, and dishwashing liquid made with real lemons?

Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?

Why is the third hand on the watch called second hand?



Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?

Why is the word dictionary in the dictionary?

Why isn't there a special name for the tops of your feet?

Why isn't there mouse-flavored cat food?

Why can't they make the whole plane out of the same substance that little indestructible black box is?



Can fat people go skinny-dipping?

Why do you need a driver's license to buy liquor when you can't drink and drive? **

True of False

Can you guess which of the following are true and which are false?

1. Apples, not caffeine, are more efficient at waking you up in the morning.

2. Alfred Hitchcock didn't have a belly button.

3. A pack-a-day smoker will lose approximately 2 teeth every 10 years.

4. People do not get sick from cold weather; it's from being indoors a lot more.

5. When you sneeze, all bodily functions stop, even your heart!

6. Only 7 per cent of the population are lefties.

7. Forty people are sent to the hospital for dog bites every minute.

8. Babies are born without kneecaps. They don't appear until they are 2-6 years old.

9. The average person over 50 will have spent 5 years waiting in lines.

10. The toothbrush was invented in 1498.

11. The average housefly lives for one month.

12. 40,000 Americans are injured by toilets each year.

13. A coat hanger is 44 inches long when straightened.

14. The average computer user blinks 7 times a minute.

15. Your feet are bigger in the afternoon than any other time of day.

16. Most of us have eaten a spider in our sleep.

17. The REAL reason ostriches stick their head in the sand is to search for water.

18. The only two animals that can see behind themselves without
Turning their heads are the rabbit and the parrot.

19. John Travolta turned down the starring roles in "An Officer and a Gentleman" and "Tootsie."

20. Michael Jackson owns the rights to the South Carolina State anthem.

21. In most television commercials advertising milk, a mixture of
White paint and a little thinner is used in place of the milk.

22. Prince Charles and Prince William NEVER travel on the same
Airplane, just in case there is a crash.

23. The first Harley Davidson motorcycle built in 1903 used a tomato can For a carburetor.

24. Most hospitals make money by selling the umbilical cords cut from women Who give birth. They are used in vein transplant surgery.

25. Humphrey Bogart was related to Princess Diana. They were 7th cousins.

26. If coloring weren't added to Coca-Cola, it would be green.


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They are all TRUE... . Now go back and think about #16!!!

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Do You Think Like A Psychopath?

Read this question, come up with an answer. This is not a trick question.

It is as it reads. No one I know so far has got it right.

A woman, while at the funeral of her own mother, met a guy whom she did not know. She thought the man was amazing. She believed him to be her dream hero so much so that she fell in love with him right there, but never asked for his number and could not find him. A few days later she killed her sister.

Question:
What is her motive for killing her sister?

Give this some thought before you look at the answer below.

Answer:
She was hoping the guy would appear at the funeral again.

If you answered this correctly, you think like a psychopath. This supposedly was a test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has the same mentality as a killer.

Several arrested serial killers were given test and answered the question correctly.

If you didn't answer the question correctly, good for you. If you did,admit it, and look for a good doctor

10 Nasihat Luqman Al Hakim Kepada Puteranya

Segala puji bagi Allah SWT, sholawat serta salam semoga tetap terlimpahkan kepada junjungan kita nabi Muhammad SAW, shahabat, keluarga serta orang-orang yang masih berittiba' (mengikuti) kepada beliau sampai hari kiamat.
Al Qur'an adalah sumber hukum dan ilmu pengetahuan yang tak pernah kering untuk ditimba, penuh dengan pelajaran, di dalamnya terdapat hikmah dan teladan. Salah satu isi pokok dari Al Qur'an adalah kisah perjalanan kehidupan para nabi dan rasul serta orang-orang saleh dari umat-umat sebelum nabi Muhammad SAW. Hikmah diceritakannya sirah manusia-manusia pilihan itu tidak lain karena besarnya manfaat dari keteladanan iman, sifat dan akhlaq mereka. Maka disini akan saya angkat sebuah kisah Luqman Al Hakim yang penuh dengan hikmah bagi kita semua.

1. Tidak menyekutukan Allah.
Sebesar-besar kedzaliman dan kemungkaran adalah menyekutukan Allah SWT, sebagaimana firman Allah SWT
"Dan (ingatlah) ketika Luqman berkata kepada anaknya, di waktu ia memberi pelajaran kepadanya: "Hai anakku, janganlah kamu mempersekutukan (Allah) sesungguhnya mempersekutukan (Allah) adalah benar-benar kezaliman yang besar".(Q.S. Luqman:13)

Allah SWT tidak akan mengampuni dosa syirik, kecuali ia bertobat dan meninggalkan perbuatannya. Sesungguhnya hanya Allah sajalah yang berhak untuk disembah (Allahu mustahiqqul 'ibaadah). Dia lah yang berhaq di mintai pertolongan. Hanya kepada-Nyalah segala urusan diserahkan, takut (khouf), berharap (raja') hanya layak ditujukan kepada Allah swt, bukan kepada yang lainnya

2. Berbuat baik kepada kedua orang tua.
Firman Allah SWT.
"Dan Kami perintahkan kepada manusia (berbuat baik) kepada dua orang ibu-bapaknya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dalam keadaan lemah yang bertambah-tambah, dan menyapihnya dalam dua tahun. Bersyukurlah kepada-Ku dan kepada dua orang ibu bapakmu, hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu."( QS.Luqman: 14)
Di dalam riwayat Bukhari, Rasulullah pernah ditanya oleh seorang sahabat:
"Amalan apakah yang dicintai oleh Allah ?Beliau menjawab: Shalat pada waktunya, ia bertanya lagi: Kemudian Apa ?, Beliau menjawab: berbuat baik kepada orang tua, .Ia bertanya lagi: kemudian apa?, Belau menjawab: Jihad di jalan Allah" (shahih Bukhari V/2227, hadits No.5625)

3. Ketaatan kepada kedua orang tua harus dilandasi oleh ketaatan kepada Allah;
karena tidak boleh taat kepada keduanya dalam rangka berbuat maksiat kepada Allah, lebih-lebih menyekutukan Allah ( syirik ). Allah berfirman

"Dan jika keduanya memaksamu untuk mempersekutukan dengan Aku sesuatu yang tidak ada pengetahuanmu tentang itu, maka janganlah kamu mengikuti keduanya, dan pergaulilah keduanya di dunia dengan baik"(QS. Luqman: 14).

4. Mengikuti jalan orang-orang yang kembali kepada Allah SWT
Firman Allah SWT

Dan ikutilah jalan orang yang kembali kepada-Ku, kemudian hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu, maka Ku-beritakan kepadamu apa yang telah kamu kerjakan.(QS. Luqman: 15)

Disini Luqman memberikan sebuah nasehat kepada anaknya agar ia mengikuti jejak orang-orang yang kembali kepada Allah SWT yaitu para nabi dan rasul serta orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal shaleh, yang selalu bertaubat kepada Allah SWT, yang telah diberi Allah SWT hidayah, yaitu tetap dalam agama yang hanif yakni Islam.

5. Allah akan membalas semua perbuatan manusia.

Firman Allah swt :
(Luqman berkata): "Hai anakku, sesungguhnya jika ada (sesuatu perbuatan) seberat biji sawi, dan berada dalam batu atau di langit atau di dalam bumi, niscaya Allah akan mendatangkannya (membalasinya). Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Halus lagi Maha Mengetahui.(Q.S: 16)

"Maka Barangsiapa yang mengerjakan kebaikan seberat dzarrahpun, niscaya dia akan melihat (balasan) nya. Dan barangsiapa yang mengerjakan kejahatan seberat dzarrahpun, niscaya dia akan melihat (balasan) nya pula". (QS. Al Zalzalah: 7-8).

6. Menegakkan sholat.

Shalat adalah tiang agama, sehingga ia tidak akan tegak tanpa shalat. Maka sebagai seorang yang beriman kita diwajibkan menegakkannya. Sebagaimana firman Allah SWT dalam Surah Luqman ayat 17 yang berbunyi :

"Hai anakku, dirikanlah shalat !"
Shalat dapat mencegah manusia dari perbuatan keji dan mungkar, sebagaimana firman Allah SWT.
!"Dan dirikanlah shalat. Sesungguhnya shalat itu mencegah dari (perbuatan-perbuatan) keji dan mungkar." (QS. Al 'Ankabuut: 45)

7. Amar Ma'ruf nahi Munkar.
Ada dua komponen penting dalam Islam yang memberikan sebuah dorongan yang kuat kepada setiap muslim untuk mendakwahkan agama yang dianutnya, yaitu Amar ma'ruf nahi mungkar (memerintahkan berbuat kebajikan dan mencegah yang mungkar). Perintah untuk beramar ma'ruf nahi mungkar sangat banyak di dalam Al Qur'an seperti :

"Dan hendaklah ada di antara kamu segolongan umat yang menyeru kepada kebajikan, menyuruh kepada yang ma`ruf dan mencegah dari yang munkar; merekalah orang-orang yang beruntung".(QS. Ali Imran:104).

8. Bersabar terhadap apa yang menimpa kita.
Sesungguhnya segala cobaan yang menimpa seorang muslim itu adalah merupakan sesuatu yang mesti terjadi karena itulah bentuk ujian (ikhtibar) dari Allah SWT, apakah ia sabar atau tidak ?, firman Allah SWT.

"Dan bersabarlah terhadap apa yang menimpa kamu. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu termasuk hal-hal yang diwajibkan (oleh Allah)."(QS. Luqman:17)

9. Tidak Menyombongkan diri
Sifat takabur atau merasa besar dihadapan manusia adalah sifat yang dibenci oleh Allah SWT.

"Dan janganlah kamu memalingkan mukamu dari manusia (karena sombong) dan janganlah kamu berjalan di muka bumi dengan angkuh. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang-orang yang sombong lagi membanggakan diri."

10. Bersikap pertengahan dalam segala hal dan berakhlaq yang baik
Islam tidak menghendaki sikap Ghuluw (berlebih-lebihan) juga tidak menginginkan untuk bersikap tahawun (meremehkan) dalam segala hal termasuk juga dalam perkara-perkara yang menurut penilaian sebagian orang dianggap kecil seperti sikap berjalan, berbicara dsb. Allah SWT mengatur itu semua sebagaimana firmanNya:

"Dan sederhanalah kamu dalam berjalan dan lunakkanlah suaramu. Sesungguhnya seburuk-buruk suara ialah suara keledai."

Manusia akan mempunyai nilai jika menampakkan akhlaq yang baik, karena tujun diutusnya Rasulullah SAW selain untuk menyeru kepada Allah ( Ad-dakwah ilallah) adalah untuk menyempurnakan Akhlaq dan budi pekerti