10 Cara Bermotivasi Di Waktu Pagi

Perkara terbaik yang Anda patut lakukan di waktu pagi, adalah :

1. Bersyukur, bersyukur, bersyukur.
Bersyukurlah sebab Anda masih diberi peluang untuk meneruskan hidup, Anda masih ada kesempatan untuk melakukan yang terbaik hari ini, lebih baik dari yang kelmarin.

2. Tekad Bermotivasi.
Pasang niat dalam hati yang Anda mahu jadi bersemangat sepenuhnya. Ambil beberapa artikel-artikel motivasi pendek dan baca dalam seminit dua.

Di waktu awal pagi, jangan buka email, baca newspaper, baca gosip-gosip mahupun join sesi mengumpat bersama kawan-kawan. Sebab, ia menerbitkan energi negatif lalu menghalang Anda dari bermotivasi sepanjang hari.

3. Dekatkan Diri Dengan Sesi Motivasi.
Ikuti sesi-sesi motivasi di media, misalnya Motivasi Pagi di TV3 dan sesi motivasi Dr Izzy di Hot FM. Luangkan masa 3-5 minit memberi motivasi pada diri sendiri melalui sesi-sesi motivasi pendek ni.

Motivasi harus dijaga, sebab kalau tak di jaga Anda ia mudah turun. Kesannya, Anda jadi tak bersemangat, lemah longlai dan lemas.

4. Dalam Apa Jua Yang Anda Buat, Mulakan Dengan Bismillah.
Bila Anda start punch card nak masuk kerja, baca Bismillah, moga Anda dijauhkan dari bisikan syaitan yang membuat Anda lalai, mengantuk, macam tak cukup ‘cas betri’ saja.

Andai kata Anda seorang pelajar, start nak masuk kelas, duduk di kerusi Anda dan start nak bukak buku, mulakan semuanya dengan Bismillah. Moga apa jua yang Anda lakukan mendapat keberkatan.

Masuk aje kelas, pasang niat Anda mahu menuntut ilmu. Bila istiqamah melakukannya, Anda punya peluang cerah untuk menjadi cemerlang!

5. Set Target Kemajuan Diri Sendiri
Ini juga kurang dititikberatkan. Bila dah keluar rumah sama ada ke kelas atau ke tempat kerja, kita tak tahu apa yang kita nak capai hari tu. Betul tak?

Kita hanya nak sampai di sana, bekerja (atau menghadiri kelas) lepas tu nanti petang balik rumah, berehat, makan, minum, pastu tidur. Esok pagi, bangun dan perkara sama berulang lagi.

Hidup Anda bagai dalam 1 bulatan, situ-situ saja.

Mulai hari ini, ubah sikap Anda. Set target apa yang Anda mahu capai, lagi best setkan untuk setiap hari.

Andai Anda seorang pelajar, set target berapa bab yang Anda nak ulangkaji, berapa buah buku yang Anda nak baca dalam minggu ni, berapa soklan Anda nak tanya dengan lecturer Anda nanti.

Andai Anda seorang usahawan, set target berapa jualan yang Anda nak capai hari ini dan berapa keuntungan yang Anda nak dapat hasil dari bisnes Anda. Set juga apa yang Anda nak pelajari hari ni dalam bidang bisnes Anda.

Andai Anda seorang pekerja, set berapa tugas yang Anda nak siapkan dan set limit masa untuk Anda menyiapkan segalanya. Kecekapan seorang pekerja di nilai dari kepantasan, ketepatan dan kekemasan.

6. Lihat Warna Cerah
Warna boleh mempengaruhi mood. Warna cerah membuat kita jadi energetik, ceria dan penuh dengan idea.

Setiap hari, lihat warna-warna yang cerah seperti kuning, merah, biru dan hijau. Cara ni saya dah test sendiri, berkesan sungguh!

Dekatkan diri dengan benda-benda berwarna cerah sebab ia mampu merubah mood Anda menjadi positif.

7. Penuhkan Hati Dengan Kemaafan
Lepaskan segala yang dulu-dulu. Maafkan orang diwaktu pagi, maafkan kesalahan semuanya dari dulu sampai sekarang.

Lepaskan dendam, rasa tak puas hati, geram, sakit hati dan yang sewaktu dengannya.

Andai emosi-emosi negatif ni bersarang di hati (walaupun sedikit) ia menghalang motivasi. Kesannya, Anda jadi orang yang tak bersemangat langsung.

Lebih teruk, Anda jadi orang yang berfikiran negatif, hanya nampak yang negatif dalam diri setiap orang, setiap situasi dan setiap benda.

Anda mesti berubah untuk kemajuan diri.

Berani Berubah Untuk Kecemerlangan Hidup!

10 Perkara Perbuatan Sia-sia

10 perkara perbuatan sia-sia

Sufyan ats-Tsauri, seorang ulama hadis yang terkemuka, menyatakan bahawa ada sepuluh hal yang termasuk dalam kategori sia-sia, iaitu:-

1.Laki-laki atau wanita yang berdoa untuk dirinya sendiri, tapi tidak dimohonkannya doa untuk ibu-bapanya sendiri dan kaum Muslimin.

2.Orang yang kerapkali membaca Al Quran, tapi tidak membaca secara tertib sampai seratus ayat tiap-tiap hari.

3.Laki-laki yang masuk ke dalam masjid, kemudian ia keluar kembali dari masjid itu tanpa mengerjakan shalat tahiyatul-masjid.

4.Orang-orang yang melewati tanah perkuburan, tapi tidak mengucapkan salam kepada penghuni-penghuni kubur dan tidak mendoakan untuk keselamatan arwah-arwah mereka.

5.Laki-laki yang masuk pada hari Jumaat ke suatu kota, kemudian ia keluar lagi dari kota itu tanpa mengerjakan shalat Jumaat berjemaah.

6.Laki-laki atau wanita yang tinggal di suatu lingkungan dengan seorang ulama, tapi dia tidak mempergunakan kesempatan itu untuk menambah ilmu pengetahuan.

7.Dua orang laki-laki yang bersahabat, tapi mereka tidak saling menanyakan tentang keadaan masing-masing dan keluarganya.

8.Laki-laki yang mengundang seseorang menjadi tetamunya, tapi tidak diacuhkan dan tidak dilayani tetamunya itu.

9.Pemuda yang menjadikan zaman mudanya berlalu begitu saja tanpa memanfaatkan waktu yang berharga itu untuk menuntut ilmu dan meningkatkan budi pekerti.

10.Orang yang tidak menyedari tetangganya yang merintih lantaran kelaparan, sedang ia sendiri makan kekenyangan di dalam rumahnya.
wallahuallam

45 Things A Girl Wants But Won't Ask For

Are you on a date with someone? How's your relationship? Are you happy with your couple? Are you making your couple happy? For a guy, sometime, a girl can be too complicated. And for a girl, a guy seems to be misunderstanding or don't have any clue for what they want in a relationship. Here, especially for guys, I give you some tips on what a girl wants in a relationship. And for girls, you can forward this to your boyfriend to read.

45 things a girl wants but won't ask for :

1. Touch her waist.

2. Actually talk to her.

3. Share secrets with her.

4. Give her your jacket.

5. Kiss her slowly.

Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.

7. Hold her.

8. Laugh with her.

9. Invite her somewhere.

10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

KEEP READING

11. Smile with her.

12. Take pictures with her.

13. Pull her onto your lap.

14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.

15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can't get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.

Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.

17. Kiss her unexpectedly.

18. Hug her from behind around the waist.

19. Tell her she's beautiful.

20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car, it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.

22. Tell her she's your everything - only if you mean it.

23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her, if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT, so just hug her.

24. Make her feel loved.

25- Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!!!!*

WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US

26- Don't LIE to her.

27- Dont CHEAT on her.

28- Take her ANYWHERE she wants

29- Txt messege or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work or school, and how much you MISS her.

30- Be there for her when ever she needs you, & even when she doesn't need you, just be there so she'll know that she can ALWAYS count on you.

ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER BECAUSE, IT'S IMPORTANT

31. Hold her close when she's cold so she can HOLD you too.

32. When you are ALONE, hold her close and kiss her.

33. Kiss her on the CHEEK.

34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY

35. Dont EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you're mad. If she is upset, comfort her.

REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT

36. When people DISS her, stand up for her.

37. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.

38. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart. Link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.

39. When walking next to each other grab her HAND.

40. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as long as possible*

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED

41. Call or text her at night to wish her SWEET DREAMS.

42. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears.

43. Take her for LONG walks at night.

44. ALWAYS Remind her how much you love her.

45. Sit besides her and tell her how much u love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her. You'll never know when she needs just a lil more love

So girls, is it true? Or not? And guys, have you try it? Is it works? Any changes in your relationship? Good luck in your relationship.

7 Kalimat Untuk Diamalkan

Barang siapa hafal tujuh kalimat, ia terpandang mulia di sisi Allah dan Malaikat serta diampuni dosa-dosanya walau sebanyak busa laut.

1. Mengucap Bismillah pada tiap-tiap hendak melakukan sesuatu.

2. Mengucap Alhamdulillah pada tiap-tiap selesai melakukan sesuatu.

3. Mengucap Astagfirullah jika lidah terselip perkataan yang tidak patut.

4. Mengucap Insya Allah jika merencanakan berbuat sesuatu di hari esok.

5. Mengucap La haula wala kuwwata illa billah jika menghadapi sesuatu tak disukai dan tak diingini.

6. Mengucap inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun jika menghadapi dan menerima musibah.

7. Mengucap La ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasulullah sepanjang siang dan malam sehingga tak terpisah dari lidahnya dari tafsir hanafi, mudah-mudahan ingat, walau lambat-lambat mudah-mudahan selalu, walau sambil lalu mudah-mudahan jadi bisa, karena sudah biasa.

6 Steps To Living An Abundant Life

You can reprogram your present reality, and begin creating your life by design, manifesting everything you truly desire, just by taking six easy steps. You can begin right NOW.

1. Focus on What You Want to Manifest

You need to quit focusing on what is missing from your life. This includes focusing on what you don’t want to happen. As soon as you realize you are focusing on what you don’t have, choose a different thought, or “flip the switch.”

Shift your focus to what you intend to attract and manifest in your life. Put yourself in a state of receiving and accepting and move away from the state of lacking.

2. Stop Struggling

If you find yourself viewing your present circumstances as the reason for why you can’t have what you want, STOP. Whatever difficulties you are currently facing, know they are only temporary and will last only as long as you continue to give the difficulties your attention.

Your present circumstances are alive in just THIS moment. What you give your attention to grows. You attract what you focus on. So move your focus away from your current difficulty and you’ll stop feeling the struggle.

3. Live in the NOW

Focusing on the past will inhibit your ability to create. If you find yourself thinking about how things have always been, stop giving the past your focus! If you keep doing things the same way, you’ll keep getting the same results. What’s the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing again and again, and expecting different results! Stay in the present moment, live in the NOW.

4. Quit Telling the Same Old Story

Quit sharing your tale of woe with others. When you quit telling your dramatic story, you won’t have to live up to the story. Replaying the story forces you to focus on it. It’s impossible to move forward when you’re facing backward.

5. Create Your Life for You

Don’t worry about what others expect of you, or think is best for you. Everyone has an opinion on how you should live your life… the kind of job you should have, how you should dress, whom you should be involved with. When you feel pressure to live up to someone else’s ideals, ask yourself if their expectation matches yours. If the answer is NO, let it go. You are creating your own life, and you have to live for you.

6. Don’t Create Negative Energy

Let go of judgments. Don’t decide a situation or a person is “good” or “bad,” “right” or “wrong.” This practice only creates negative energy. Because like attracts like, beware of attracting into your life the very thing you judge or don’t want for yourself.

Making these six simple shifts in your behaviors will allow you to change your life, live in a higher vibration, and move you closer to a life of riches. TODAY.

10 Steps How to be a Better Couple

1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials ! or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that ur partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!!!

4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep your room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him... so he knows u can still be ! romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gon! na get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and canceling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.

10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u ! be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!.

15 Kesilapan Ibu Bapa Dalam Mendidik Anak-anak

15 Kesilapan ibu bapa dalam mendidik anak-anak

"Harta benda dan anak-anak kamu hanyalah menjadi ujian dan

di sisi ALLAH ada pahala yang besar." (Al-Quran Surah At-Taghabun, 64:15)

Anak-anak adalah amanah dari ALLAH s.w.t. dan ianya

sebahagian dari ujian ALLAH s.w.t. kepada kita hamba-hamba-Nya. Sebagai ujian, ianya akan dipertanggungjawabkan. Orang yang malang ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya tidak membawa kebaikan kepadanya di akhirat. Rasulullah SAW diberitakan telah bersabda :

"Tahukah engkau siapakah orang yang mandul." Berkata para

sahabat : "Orang yang mandul ialah orang yang tidak mempunyai anak." Lalu Rasulullah SAW berkata : "Orang yang mandul itu ialah orang yang mempunyai ramai anak tetapi anak-anaknya itu tidak memberi kemanfaatan kepadanya sesudah ia meninggal dunia."-(Maksud Al-Hadith )

Ini mungkin disebabkan beberapa kesilapan dalam mendidik

anak-anak.

1. Kesilapan pertama: Kurang berdoa

1.1 Kurang berdoa semasa mengandung. Antara doa-doa yang
digalakkan diamalkan semasa mengandung ialah Saidul (penghulu) Istighfar

Doa memohon rahmat (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran, 3 : 8-9)
Doa memohon zuriat yang baik (Al-Quran Surah Ali 'Imran,
3 : 38)
Doa agar anak mengerjakan solat (Al-Quran Surah Ibrahim,
14 : 40-41)

1.2 Kurang berdoa semasa membesarkan anak. Doa-doa yang
digalakkan diamalkan semasa anak membesar ialah

Doa agar anak patuh kepada ALLAH s.w.t. (Al-Quran Surah
Al-Baqarah, 2 :128)
Doa diberi zuriat yang menyejukkan hati (Al-Quran Surah
Al-Furqan, 25 :74)

Doa supaya nama anak membawa kebaikan kepadanya.


2. Kesilapan kedua: Banyak memberi belaian Tarhib(menakutkan) daripada Targhib (didikan atau motivasi) seperti :
menakutkan anak-anak dengan sekolah
menakutkan dengan tempat gelap
menakutkan dengan hutan rimba atau bukit bukau
menggunakan kekerasan dan paksaan semasa menyuruh anak tidur

3. Kesilapan ketiga: Tidak tegas dalam mendidik anak-anak
tidak menjadualkan kegiatan harian anak-anak
terlalu memfokuskan anak-anak kepada sesuatu aktiviti
sahaja tanpa mengambil kira perasaan mereka.

4. Kesilapan keempat: Menegur anak secara negatif
mengeluarkan kata-kata kesat dan maki hamun kepada
anak-anak (terutama semasa marah).
membandingkan anak-anak dengan anak-anak lain atau anak
orang lain.

5. Kesilapan kelima: Memberi didikan yang tidak seimbang
antara jasmani (physical), rohani (spiritual) dan minda
(intelektual)ramai yang lebih mementingkan pendidikan minda dari pendidikan rohani

6. Kesilapan keenam: Kurang memberi sentuhan kepada semua
anak-anak sedangkan Rasulullah kerap dilihat mendukung cucu-cucunya dan mencium mereka. Diriwayatkan oleh Aisyah r.a. :

Pada suatu hari Rasulullah SAW mencium Al-Hassan atau
Al-Hussien bin Ali r.a. Ketika itu Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamimiy
sedang berada di rumah baginda. Berkata Aqra' : "Ya Rasulullah! Aku mempunyai sepuluh orang anak, tetapi aku belum pernah mencium seorang pun dari mereka." Rasulullah melihat kepada Aqra' kemudian berkata :

"Siapa yang tidak mengasihi tidak akan dikasihi."-(Maksud
Al-Hadith Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

7. Kesilapan ketujuh: Penampilan diri yang kurang anggun dan
kurang kemas ibu bapa tidak menunjukkan cara berpakaian yang kemas dan yang menepati kehendak syarak bila berada di rumah, iaitu berpakaian secara selekeh atau berpakaian seksi di hadapan anak-anak.

8. Kesilapan kelapan: Susunan rumahtangga yang tidak kemas.
Ini mengakibatkan anak-anak terikut-ikut dengan cara itu dan
membesar menjadi pemalas dan selekeh.

9. Kesilapan kesembilan: Kurang menghidupkan sunnah di rumah
seperti memberi salam, makan berjemaah, beribadah bersama-sama, dan sebagainya. Dalam menjawab salam, lazimkanlah menjawab salam dengan yang lebih baik dari salam yang diberi.

10. Kesilapan kesepuluh: Tidak menggantungkan rotan di
tempat yang mudah dilihat oleh anak-anak. Dalam Islam, merotan anak dengan tujuan mendidik adalah satu sunnah.

11. Kesilapan kesebelas: Kurang mendedahkan anak-anak dengan model yang cemerlang seperti para ulama' dan orang-orang yang berhemah tinggi dan berakhlak mulia. Anak-anak juga patut didedahkan dengan sembahyang jemaah, kuliah agama dan aktiviti-aktiviti yang bersesuaian dengan akhlak Islam.

12. Kesilapan keduabelas: Bertengkar di depan anak-anak. Ini
akan menyebabkan anak-anak rasa tertekan dan membenci salah seorang dari ibubapanya.

13. Kesilapan ketigabelas: Membenarkan orang yang tidak elok
sahsiyahnya masuk ke dalam rumah kita, baik dari kalangan
sahabat sendiri ataupun sahabat anak-anak, kerana ini akan
memberikan contoh yang tidak baik kepada anak-anak yang masih membesar.

14. Kesilapan keempatbelas: Kurang mengawasi rancangan-rancangan yang ditonton samada dari TV ataupun video. Pengawasan dalam hal ini adalah penting kerana kebanyakan rancangan dari media ini menonjolkan akhlak yang kurang baik seperti pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan, pakaian yang tidak menepati syarak dan perbualan yang boleh merosakkan agama anak-anak.

15. Kesilapan kelimabelas: Terlalu bergantung kepada pembantu rumah untuk mendidik anak-anak. Sebagai ibubapa kitalah yang akan disoal di akhirat kelak akan anak-anak ini. Oleh itu adalah menjadi satu kepentingan kita untuk berusaha memastikan anak-anak terdidik dengan didikan Islam.

How To Be A Good Friend

1. Be real. Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain clique, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows? That's not friendship, it's opportunism. Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, it's better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.


2. Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out. If you found yourself lying about something, be honest - go up to them, tell them the truth and how you felt, as well as how you may think they would've felt (explain that you were second-guessing rather than trusting your friendship). Don't be a coward; if you know you were at fault for the whole dilemma, own up. Simply talk about it, hope your friend will forgive you. They'd most likely appreciate it in the future, to look back and say, 'wow!' I have/had an amazing friend by my side.


3. Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back. Nobody likes a backstabber. Never say anything about your friend that you would not want to repeat face to face. Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story. If someone says something that shocks you and doesn't seem like a thing your friend would do or say, tell them, "I know him/her, and that just doesn't sound right. Let me talk to him/her, find out his/her perspective on this. If it turns out to be true, I'll let you know. Otherwise, I would appreciate it if you didn't spread that around, because it might not be." You can't play both sides of the fence.


4. Be respectful. Know the boundaries. Things you and your friend discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. She shared it with you - and only you, as far as you know. Example: If your friend doesn't want to name her crush, don't push her into it. If she has named her crush, don't tell anyone else. This is just common courtesy anyone and everyone deserves the expectation that you will keep confidences.


5. Watch out for your friend. If you sense that s/he is getting drunk at a party, help him or her to get away from the alcohol. Don't allow your friend to drive drunk - take his or her keys and/or drive your friend home personally. If your friend begins talking about running away or committing suicide, tell someone about it. This rule overrides the "respect privacy" step, because even if your friend begs you not to tell anyone, you should do it anyway. Suggest a help line or professional to your friend. Talk to your and your friend's parents or spouse first (unless they are the ones causing the problems) before involving anyone else.


6. Pitch in for friends during times of crisis. If your friend has to go to the hospital, you could help pack his or her bags; if her/his dog runs away, help to find it, if he/she needs someone to pick him/her up, be there. Take notes for your friend in school and give them their homework assignments when they're absent and sick at home. Send cards and care packages. If there is a death in his/her family, you might want to attend the funeral or cook dinner for them. Care about your friend enough to help him or her open up and let tears roll. Give them a tissue and listen. You don't have to say anything, just be with them.


7. If your friend is going through a crisis, don't tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be. This goes right along with keeping it real. It's hard not to say this sometimes, but false reassurance can often be worse than none, and it may undermine your friend's ability to get through the crisis as well as they might. Instead, tell your friend that whatever they need, you are there for them. If they need to talk, talk; if they need to sit quietly, sit with them; if they need to get their mind off things, take them to a movie or concert. Give them a hug. You are friends, not strangers, after all. Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.


8. Give advice, add perspective. Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances. Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should... ".


9. Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen. There's no need to become clingy or needy. Allowing one another the time to hang with other friends gives you much-needed breathing room, and allows you to come together fresh and appreciating each other even more.


10. Never make a promise you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage. Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out. Don't wait until 15 minutes after you were supposed to arrive to call and say, "gee, I'm sorry." Instead, a quick call to say, "Hey, I know I promised to help you with whatever it is, but my mom is telling me we are going to my aunt's for the weekend, and leaving tomorrow just after school - that means I won't be able to make it. I'm so sorry. Can we reschedule?" That's just honoring the fact that your friend is counting on you, and respecting the fact that, given a little notice, your friend might just be able to get someone else to help with whatever it was - or not, whatever. But at least you won't be hanging your friend out to twist in the wind.


11. Listen to them. you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7. If you're monopolizing every conversation with your feelings, they aren't getting anything out of the friendship. Invite them to share their hearts with you as often as you share yours with them.


12. Don't be selfish. Grabbing, stealing and begging are big NOs in the rules of friendship. The friend will soon get tired of this and eventually more towards more selfless people who are willing to give what they get.


13. Learn to share. As before, if you have a selfless friend, they will expect something back, even if they don't make it obvious. This does not necessarily mean giving them large expensive presents. This can just mean being there for them when they need you.


14. Don't abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate. Money doesn't have to be an issue. Don't use your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house. No one wants to be friends with a moocher or feel used. If you borrow something from a friend, take good care of it and then return it without being asked. Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretenses. It's proper etiquette.



15. Live by the golden rule. Always treat a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you. Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and apologize. Dont be a brat!

Petua Untuk Dapat Jodoh

Petua untuk dapat jodoh (sebagai tambahan kepada usaha2 lain).. amalkan ayat 131 dan 132 Surah Toha selepas solat setiap solat fardu, bermula dari :

" Walaa tamuddanna'ainaika illa ma mata'na bihi azwajanminhum zahratul hayattu linaftinahum fiih, warizqo robbikaa hairu wa abqa, wa' mur ahlakaa bisSolaati,wastabir 'alaiha, laa nas aluka rizqo, nahnu narzukuqa, wal'aqibati lit taqwa... ... ."
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"Jangan lah pandangan mata kamu terpesona melihat perhiasan kehidupan (yang Kami beri kepada orang2 kafir) yang menjadi ujian padanya. Dan rezeki kurniaan daripada tuhanmu (Allah) itulah lebih baik dan kekal(balasan Syurga). DAn suruhlah /arahkan ahlimu (keluarga dan anak2 serta org terdekat) mengerjakan solat, dan bersabarlah kamu atas perkara itu. Tidak lah Kami minta rezeki dari mu, tetapi Kamilah(Allah) yang mengurniakan rezeqi kepadamu dan 'akibat kesudahan baik itu adalah bagi mereka yang bertaqwa"


juga ada doa yang boleh dijadikan sarana permohonan kepada Allah agar mendapatkan jodoh, antara lain doa nabi Zakariya yang artinya:

Dan (ingatlah kisah) Zakariya, tatkala ia menyeru Tuhannya 'ya Tuhanku, janganlah Engkau membiarkan aku hidup seorang diri, dan Engkau adalah Waris Yang Paling Baik'. (QS. Abiya/ 21: 89)



Selain itu, perbanyak membaca shalawat nabi Muhammad saw. Allahumma shalli wasallim ëalaa sayyidinaa Muhammad. Waíalaa aali sayyidinaa Muhammad. (Ya Allah, semoga kesejahteraan dan keselamatan tercurah kepada junjungan nabi Muhammad saw., dan segenap keluarga beliau). Dibaca minimal 1000 kali dalam sehari semalam. Insya Allah doa Anda dikabulkan oleh Allah SWT. (11)

7 Best Ways To Appear Smarter Than You Act

Sometimes first impressions can be just that - impressions - and not necessarily an accurate picture of how people truly are. If you want to give an impression that you are bright and intelligent, here are a few ways - aside from wearing glasses - that you can trick people into believing you are smarter than you actually are. And who knows, maybe some of the methods will actually make you smarter or at least help you become a more interesting person.



1. Read a Quality Newspaper in Public and in Private

When you read newspapers like The New York Times and the Wall Street Journal, you are reading material that is written at a higher educational level than your typical local newspaper. Not only will your brain be stimulated with words outside the mainstream, but the articles may give you topics to discuss with others at work or school or at your next cocktail party.

2. Work the Crossword Puzzle in the Sunday New York Times

This is not a puzzle for lightweights and pretty much everyone knows it. But puzzles are like games and every game has a few tricks that after awhile you'll learn and improve. While you're hanging out at coffee shops or between classes or on a break at work, keep plugging away at the Times crossword and people will assume you are an intellectual.



3. Read Good Books

When you're looking for some leisure reading, skip the beach fiction and go right to the quality literature section of the book racks or library. You can peruse the Sunday Times magazine section for book reviews and see what is and what is not worth your time.

4. Play Chess

Chess is a game of strategy. It's a thinking game. Most people assume that if you play chess, you're a thinking person.

5. Dress Smart and Keep Clean

If you dress like a high school dropout, that's what people will assume. If you dress like an attorney, people will think differently about you. Your clothes tell people more about you than you could possibly tell them yourself. If you care about yourself, it will show through in how you dress. If you are clean-shaven, with neat hair and conservative makeup, people will treat you differently and assume you are more educated and intelligent than someone covered with tattoos and multiple piercings.

6. Don't Talk About the TV Shows You Watch

Whether you watch 30 minutes of television each night or three hours, if you want people to think you're smarter than you actually are, don't bring up TV in conversations with others. But then, don't be smug about it either. There's nothing more annoying than someone proclaiming they don't watch TV.

7. Keep a Journal

Nothing looks more intelligent than seeing someone writing in a journal. Make sure you are sitting in a public setting so that people will see you writing your thoughts. They will immediately think that you are not only intelligent but that you actually have some important thoughts developing in your brain.

Remember, being smart and appearing smart are two different things. You can only fake being smart for so long, however, so unless you want to be accused of being a fraud you may as well be happy being yourself. Besides, if you start appearing to be really smart and then you start attracting smart people who want to hang out with you, you may find that you're stuck with friends who don't watch TV, who play chess and would rather read a great novel than join you bar hopping on a Saturday night.